just doing this work its just one of those observations in theory before if or I have my first child is something i see is smart by God or human biology. human instincts are still primitive but knowing we have 9 months to get our things right is a good time period. of course in these days you have the "easy quitting" methods as well but the reality is they are ways to get your life together in 9 months it takes hard work and dedication but knowing that reality two things are important the importance of breaking your cycle and try to move forward and the the importance of getting your past sorted out with family and everything understanding that the past was worst but if we don't learn from it the future will be worser