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Presence Over Pressure: A Cool Grandpa Lesson EP - 253
Summary
In this episode of the Cool Grandpa Podcast, I discuss the importance of communication and listening in building meaningful connections with grandchildren. I emphasizes that presence is more powerful than pressure and introduces the 'Three, Two, One Grandpa Rule' to enhance interactions. The episode highlights the significance of asking questions, reflecting on conversations, and creating a safe space for grandchildren to express themselves.
Key Takeaways
🧩1. Presence Beats Pressure
Just being calm and physically present can create a sense of safety and trust for grandchildren—even more than advice or solutions.
🗣️ 2. Advice Shuts Doors—Questions Open Them
Open-ended questions spark curiosity and connection, triggering dopamine and encouraging deeper conversation.
⏸️ 3. Silence Is Leadership
Pausing before responding gives emotions time to breathe and shows grandchildren they matter.
🔢 4. The Cool Grandpa 3-2-1 Rule
3 seconds of pause → 2 reflections → 1 question This simple rhythm builds trust, encourages honesty, and avoids lecturing.
❤️ 5. Kids Remember How Safe They Felt
Your grandchildren won't remember every word—but they will remember the emotional safety you created.
The Cool Grandpa ChallengeThis week:
- Pause for 3 seconds
- Reflect twice
- Ask one open-ended question
Then notice what changes in your conversations.
Free Resource and LinksDownload the Cool Grandpa 3-2-1 Reflection Worksheet to practice this method with your grandchildren and family. https://cool-grandpa.us/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Cool-Grandpa-–-3-2-1-Worksheet.pdf
Here is the link to Codie Sanchez's podcast that I referenced: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3BUlZ4AsOXGwdItaH6ozy7. The title of her episode is "Top Rabling: The 3-2-1 Speaking Trick That Makes You Sound Like a CEO."
You can watch this fun conversation on YouTube by using this link: https://youtu.be/G3c89GznTYs
I would appreciate it if you could support the show. You can support the show through "Buy me a Coffee" by donating a few dollars HERE. (https://buymeacoffee.com/coolgrandpa)
Here is a link to my webstore: https://cool-grandpa.us/shop/
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By Greg PayneSummary
In this episode of the Cool Grandpa Podcast, I discuss the importance of communication and listening in building meaningful connections with grandchildren. I emphasizes that presence is more powerful than pressure and introduces the 'Three, Two, One Grandpa Rule' to enhance interactions. The episode highlights the significance of asking questions, reflecting on conversations, and creating a safe space for grandchildren to express themselves.
Key Takeaways
🧩1. Presence Beats Pressure
Just being calm and physically present can create a sense of safety and trust for grandchildren—even more than advice or solutions.
🗣️ 2. Advice Shuts Doors—Questions Open Them
Open-ended questions spark curiosity and connection, triggering dopamine and encouraging deeper conversation.
⏸️ 3. Silence Is Leadership
Pausing before responding gives emotions time to breathe and shows grandchildren they matter.
🔢 4. The Cool Grandpa 3-2-1 Rule
3 seconds of pause → 2 reflections → 1 question This simple rhythm builds trust, encourages honesty, and avoids lecturing.
❤️ 5. Kids Remember How Safe They Felt
Your grandchildren won't remember every word—but they will remember the emotional safety you created.
The Cool Grandpa ChallengeThis week:
- Pause for 3 seconds
- Reflect twice
- Ask one open-ended question
Then notice what changes in your conversations.
Free Resource and LinksDownload the Cool Grandpa 3-2-1 Reflection Worksheet to practice this method with your grandchildren and family. https://cool-grandpa.us/wp-content/uploads/2026/02/Cool-Grandpa-–-3-2-1-Worksheet.pdf
Here is the link to Codie Sanchez's podcast that I referenced: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3BUlZ4AsOXGwdItaH6ozy7. The title of her episode is "Top Rabling: The 3-2-1 Speaking Trick That Makes You Sound Like a CEO."
You can watch this fun conversation on YouTube by using this link: https://youtu.be/G3c89GznTYs
I would appreciate it if you could support the show. You can support the show through "Buy me a Coffee" by donating a few dollars HERE. (https://buymeacoffee.com/coolgrandpa)
Here is a link to my webstore: https://cool-grandpa.us/shop/