In this personal struggle I process an understanding that I have more tools than I know and I know there is more that I can do. I just get home from work and rest in getting into my kitchen chores, unloading the dishwasher and being in my personal space. I describe how honestly I'm still in processing the soft break up from a guy I met online, whom I told I only wanted friendship with, told me to stop contacting him. I'm still a little down over it. But I come to a knowing that there's more that I realize that I can. I sit and listen to my sad heart, and just be with the self. It doesn't look like anything productive or really big is going on here. However, the self is listening and it sees I come back to hear it, there by creating a self trust, which is the goal. Not everything will be fixed directly in the moment. Sometimes it's the proving to the self that you can actually be available should it feel sad, unsafe, ignored, not heard. If you've ever been with a friend and you just listened, but you know, the problem still exists, just the fact that someone cared enough to listen. That was the medicine, that's it. Self just wants to know you care for it.