Lisa Haskins desperately tried to help a family member survive an abusive marriage. "I didn't know if I could say something in certain situations, like when he put her down, or if that would make things more difficult for her,” Haskins recalled. “There were times where I would hear things from the kids and I just really wasn't sure what to do." That's not uncommon for people close to abuse victims. RESOLVE of Greater Rochester hears from parents, friends, co-workers and employers of people