Burnout is one of the most common dangers to programmers over their career, and I was no exception. Software development and programming can make it difficult to find a healthy balance between work and life. My burnout was a combination of self-inflicted bad decisions, things done to me, and circumstances in my personal life. 

In this episode, I share the story of my own burnout and how I lost nearly everything. Through it all, I found what really matters in life - and work became a smaller part of it.

I hope this episode encourages you to share your own struggles to get help. Maybe some of the things I learned after going through burnout can also encourage you to keep going.

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Chapter markers / timelinks: 

(0:00) Introduction (0:59) 1 SELF-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES  (1:05) 1.1 People Pleasing  (1:41) 1.2 Overextending at Work  (2:03) 1.3 Side Gigs  (2:15) 1.4 High Expenses  (2:51) 1.5 Drug Addiction  (3:18) 1.6 Guilt and Shame (3:59) 2 OTHER-INFLICTED BURNOUT CAUSES  (4:16) 2.1 Political Lies and Manipulation at Work (5:31) 2.2 Recurring Project Firefighting (6:42) 2.3 Betrayed by a Coworker (8:04) 3 CIRCUMSTANTIAL BURNOUT CAUSES (8:34) 3.1 My Child Struggled With Dangerous Addiction  (10:07) 3.2 My Father Died At a Young Age (10:45) 3.3 9/11 Work Culture Changes (12:04) 3.4 My Wife's Abuse (13:36) 4 BURNOUT TRIGGERS (13:42) 4.1 Startup Partner Exited (14:27) 4.2 Marriage Became Distant (15:13) 4.3 Recurring Relapse of My Child (15:54) 4.4 Company Bought Out (17:04) 5 MY BURNOUT SYMPTOMS (17:12) 5.1 Chronic Insomnia (19:03) 5.2 Uncontrollable Anger (19:47) 5.3 Forced to Resign (20:25) 5.4 Spent Emergency Savings (21:29) 5.5 Spent Remaining Cash (21:49) 5.6 Sold All My Stocks (22:09) 5.7 Fell Behind on Mortgage (22:54) 6 STRUGGLING THROUGH RECOVERY (23:05) 6.1 Tried Quitting Development (23:33) 6.2 My Wife and I Found God (26:11) 6.3 My Addicted Child Moved Out (27:03) 6.4 I Started on YouTube (28:32) 6.5 I Started Career Coaching (30:43) 6.6 My Sleep Improved (32:01) 7 HOW BURNOUT CHANGED ME (32:11) 7.1 Recovery is Daily (32:31) 7.2 Confronted My Addiction (33:09) 7.3 Became Aware of My Limits (34:01) 7.4 Embraced My Suffering (34:24) 7.5 Motivated By Change (36:50) 7.6 I Began Tithing (39:03) 7.7 Learning To Live Sober (40:13) 7.7 Focus on The Positive (41:09) 7.8 Reject Being Defined By Work (43:56) Episode Groove

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