Project You Pep-Talks

Oh my goodness, what a gorgeous few days it’s been since launching the tenth Goodbye, Hello journal! Thank you for all the love and support - it has meant so much to me.

And it’s got me thinking about something that has become an increasingly precious and important part of my life.

Community 💛

Over the past few years I've really come to see how deeply nourishing - and healing - it is to feel part of a community where we feel held, seen and supported.

So in today’s pep-talk, I’m exploring the magic of community, how it has supported my own growth and healing, and the different ways we can find it online and offline.

And I invite you to explore where you have that kind of nourishing community in your life. And where could you do with a little more of it.

So grab a cuppa, hit play and join me in this exploration of the power of community.

And if you want to join one of my favourite communities - the Goodbye, Hello community 🥰 come and treat yourself to the Goodbye, Hello Guided Experience where you get to come together with me and other Goodbye Hello fans every quarter, so that we can reflect, dream and plan together.

JOIN THE GOODBYE, HELLO GUIDED EXPERIENCE

Or come and join the Project You Club and enjoy that magical community effervescence every week!

JOIN THE PROJECT YOU CLUB

x Selina

P.S. If you're wanting to share the Goodbye 2026, Hello 2027 journal with your own community, don't forget that the ​Goodbye, Hello 3-for2 bundle​ (buy 2 get a third free!) is available until 14th October! >> ​BUY THE BUNDLE ​

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

This Thursday is a momentous occasion in my world {{ subscriber.first_name }} because it's when the 10th edition of the Goodbye, Hello journal, Goodbye 2026, Hello 2027, will be released into the world! 🥳

TEN editions! I honestly can’t quite believe it.

And while I am ridiculously excited for you to see this year’s journal - including its gorgeous new design, created in collaboration with designer Lou Desborough and illustrator Sara from Badbish Design - what I’m most excited about this year is celebrating YOU guys.

The community of people who, over the past ten years, have made Goodbye, Hello part of their lives. Who’ve sat down at kitchen tables, on sofas, in cafés and on holiday with their journals and used them to reflect, dream, make changes and design their lives.

And so this year, I want to make much more of that.

I’ve got lots planned, including:

• a brand new Goodbye, Hello Guided Experience that I cannot wait to tell you about
• an online AND offline celebration for Goodbye, Hello fans, which you’re all invited to
• 3 journals for the price of 2 offer (from 1–14 October) - so that’s your Christmas presents sorted! 🥳
• aaaand a creative project I’m cooking up to celebrate the stories of people who’ve been using Goodbye, Hello for anywhere from one to ten years to design their lives. So if you’re one of those people, I’m going to want to hear from you!
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So, in today’s Project You Pep-talk, I want to tell you a little bit about what I’ve got planned, why I want this 10th edition to be less about simply launching another journal and much more about celebrating the community that has grown around it - and how you can be part of it.

So if you’re a Goodbye, Hello fan - whether you’ve been with me since the very beginning or you’ve only just discovered the journal - this one’s for you.

Hit play to hear what I’ve got in store for you this year, and then get ready to celebrate with me when Goodbye 2026, Hello 2027 officially lands this Thursday! 🥳

x Selina

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

Two weeks ago I emailed confessing to being in a September tailspin. I wasn't so much embracing that back-to-school energy as I was being dragged 100mph by this year's fire horse! 😂

And despite offering up seven steps to help us all step into September with a little more intention and a little less panic, it turns out one attempt at reigning myself back in wasn’t quite enough!

And before long I was having another word with myself: This way of working was not sustainable. I needed to find another way.

So in this week’s pep-talk I'm sharing what I've been doing to hit the reset button, slow this fire horse down and get back control - of my energy...and my sanity!

And finally it IS working.

So, if you're finding yourself sucked into the urgent rush of life with your own inner sergeant major shouting out you to 'not stop' and 'go faster', then hit play on today's Pep-talk and let's get you hitting that reset button too!

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

Are you ready to switch off this Summer? Not only is it the best way to recharge your batteries, if you've had a lot on your plate recently, but magical things can happen when you fully switch off.

But it does require preparation. And in today's Pep-Talk I share my tips on how to set yourself up for switching off success and why I think it can be such a game changer.

PLUS for the next 48 hours I'm running a Summer Journaling Sale on all Project You journals!

SHOP ALL JOURNALS - 50% OFF!

And tune into the Project You Pep-Talk for a guide to switching off FULLY this summer!

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

In today's Pep-Talk I decided to dive into the juicy topic of identity and the roles we wear in life - at home, work, in our relationships, in community.

Sometimes these roles serve us - allowing us to interact with the world in ways that make us come alive.

But sometimes they don't.

And when we find ourselves going through transitions in our lives, often what you'll find is that at the core of it we are shedding old identities that no longer serve us and stepping into new identities that make us feel more aligned, connected and alive.

And so today I wanted to invite you to take a deep dive with me into the roles we play in life and how to start consciously choosing the roles we wish to play more - and the roles we don't.

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

This week we arrive at the midway point of the year.

For those of you with a Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026 journal it is time to open it up and do your Quarterly Check-in - and if you want to add an extra layer of depth and inspiration to the experience, come and join me and other Goodbye, Hello fans in the Project You Club, as we do it together tomorrow evening (UK time) ​here​.

But before we get into the dreaming and planning - that this halfway point of the year is so perfect for - I want to invite you to sit in the messy middle with me.

Sit with the aspects of your life that don't feel so great at the moment. The areas where you might feel lost, upset, confused, untethered. And instead of rushing to fix any of it, simply sit with it. Sit with the uncertainty, the discomfort, the unanswered questions.

Let it be messy.

Because sometimes, it's only when we stop trying to escape the messy middle - and instead simply sit with what is - that the path we're supposed to be on can finally emerge.

There is something extra special about doing these Quarterly Check-ins in community. Also it makes sure you do actually do it! We spend the first half hour filling in our own Quarterly Check-ins from our 'Goodbye 2025, Hello 2026' journals and then share and celebrate with the group (as much as we want to) some of the key lessons we've learnt and new intentions we've set for Q3. It is SUCH an uplifting experience 🥰 (REPLAY available)

Our monthly Reflect & Plan session has become a club favourite and follows on beautifully from the Quarterly check-in. Here we reflect in closer detail on the month we've just been through and then make a plan for the month that lies ahead, drawing inspiration from our Quarterly Check-in ((REPLAY available)

Both of these sessions are a chance to slow down, reconnect with what matters most to us and create a plan for the next chapter in our lives - making sure we fill it with the ingredients that fill our cups and help us to thrive.

And it's a chance to spend time with the most gorgeous, encouraging group of people who are all on the journey of creating lives that feel good. You really will go away feeling so uplifted

So, if that sounds good to you, then I'd love you to join us.

Grab a ticket to both workshops (and the replays) by joining the Project You Club here (you can choose a monthly subscription and unsubscribe at any time).

And then you'll have access to aaaall the juicy live events and resources that are exclusive to Project You Club members.

👉 Find out more and join the Project You Club here​

And I hope to see you at one or both of these sessions this week!

x Selina

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

This week on the podcast I'm talking about...my right arm. It's more interesting than it sounds, promise 😂

I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel like aches, pains and illnesses that I go through, are my body's way of giving me an important message that something is out of balance in my life.

I'm a big believer that that is what burnout is all about. That it's your body and your brain's way of saying 'STOP. Something is wrong. Something has to change'.

So when recently - as I've been going through my big career transition - my right arm started to ache, getting increasingly worse until it has become hard to pick things up with my right hand - my instinct was that it was connected to the journey that I'm on.

And as I've been asking that arm (yes I've been talking to my arm) what message it is trying to give me and as I've been using my left arm instead of my right - to allow the right to rest and heal - I've gained so much insight and wisdom from tuning into this pain in my body and what it has to teach me about where I was out of balance in my life.

And so in today's episode I wanted to share with you what my right arm has been teaching me about what has been out of balance in my life - the blind spots I hadn't been seeing before.

And how healing the pain in my right arm is playing a part in this journey back to balance - where I'm striving less and hanging out in the metaphorical woods more. And finally things - much to my surprise - are starting to flow again.

So if you've been feeling lately that you've been existing on a treadmill of never-ending to-do lists, striving and just pushing on through, because you feel you have no other option...then this is an episode for you.

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

Over the past month or so, as I've been navigating this big career/business transition, I've noticed something unexpected has happened to my ambition.

It hasn't disappeared, but it's been completely dismantled and has re-rooted itself somewhere completely different.

And it wasn't conscious. It just seemed to happen as I journeyed through the ring of fire I talked about in last week's episode.

Looking back, I can see that much of the ambition I've carried throughout my career over the past 20 years was more ego-driven than I realised.

That underneath my genuine desire to help people and do meaningful work, was a hidden desire that was lurking in the shadows that craved recognition, achievement and external validation.

And as everything has felt like it's been falling apart over the past few months, those ambitions seem to have burned away.

What's emerged in their place feels simpler. Calmer. More nourishing.

My ambition is suddenly for something very different.

And it feels incredibly liberating. And frankly, a huge relief!

And it's really made me reflect on the difference between healthy ambition and unhealthy ambition.

How unhealthy ambition can keep us trapped on a treadmill of constant striving, always chasing the next milestone, the next achievement, the next thing that will finally make us feel successful enough.

And how healthy ambition might have less to do with proving ourselves and more to do with creating, contributing, growing and mastering the things that genuinely matter to us.

Listen in as I explore this topic and let me know what you think.

I'd love to hear: has your ambition changed over the years? And do you think it's helping you grow or holding you back?

x Selina

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These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals

A few weeks ago, I found myself having a panic attack. On my hands and knees, on the kitchen floor (where all my panic attacks seem to happen).

The reality had finally hit me: the way I'd been running my business for the past 20 years was no longer working in the way it once did. I'd tried so hard to hold it all together for the past few years, to keep it from breaking. But with AI and the rising cost of living, the coaching industry - particularly my kind of coaching - has taken a big hit.

And I finally had to face the fact that my business - as I knew it - was falling apart.

And I'm not going to lie, it felt terrifying. Hence the panic attack.

But rather than rushing to try to fix it...I knew it was time to let it fall apart.

And I'm so glad I did.

Because by letting it unravel, what has emerged is a clarity around the work that is calling to me, a whole new vision for my business and a renewed sense of purpose that I just couldn't access while I was busy trying to hold everything together and stop it from falling apart.

And so in today's Pep-Talk I wanted to dive into this topic and look at why it is so important to let things fall apart.

How it helps us to:

• Stop fighting reality and start working with it
• Let go of identities, roles and expectations that no longer fit
• Get clear on what we want to carry forward into our next chapter
• Find freedom, purpose and possibility in the midst of uncertainty
• Discover strengths and wisdom we didn't know we had
• Create the space for something new to emerge

So, if you're in the middle of an ending, an unraveling, a career crossroads, a relationship shift or a season of life that no longer feels right, I hope this episode reminds you that things falling apart isn't always a sign that something has gone wrong.

Often it's a sign that you're ready for a new chapter.

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And if you're at a career or business crossroads yourself at the moment, and would love my help in getting unstuck and getting clear on the direction you need to head in next - one that will really have you thriving - then email me ([email protected]) and I'll let you know the different ways you can work with me at the moment.

x Selina

These Project You Pep-talks are brought to you by Selina Barker - founder and creator of the Project You journals