Focus is the one thing that can defeat us in being the best we can be. Sometimes we can be to introspective but in general I think we don't focus on ourselves in the right way. Focusing on being what we need to be rather that focusing on what others are not. Because if we are what we need to be others can have an example of what they need to be in their lives. We need to focus on being rather than doing. If we are right in our being we will be right in our doing.