The book of Proverbs is a book that can be used as a useful tool to help us grow. However, it has also been used as a weapon to produce guilt and beat down those of us that can seem to live up to its standards or simply hear its warnings too late. There may be no passage more representative of these tendencies than Proverbs 31 and the "excellent wife." So what do we do with a passage like this? Is it really just for women? What can we learn from a passage like this?