***Everyone is depressed and anxious when you hear about the cancer. ***Mania is common: Maybe channel it into something productive-ish? ***Insomnia makes you crazy. Do what you have to for a good night’s sleep a few times a week. ***YOU NEED THERAPY if you or someone you love has cancer. Everyone needs therapy. ***Disassociation is a coping mechanism, and things are just WEIRD in your life. You ARE different, and you are still you. ***Look for psycho-social resources through your hospital or employer. ***No one knows what they are doing, and—look at that!— neither do you! ***Get to know your new stress/depressed/anxious/feels barometer. ***Try new things: meditation, therapy, reiki, massage, crystals, supplements, CBD oil if available in your state. ***Eat for comfort and health. ***Instead of an existential discussion, learn to say “I’m doing fine considering the circumstances” or “I’m in pain, but nothing out of the ordinary”. ***Make a Reality Committee for phone calls or IRL convos. ***Authenticity and vulnerability leads to healing. ***Exercise will make sleep and everything a little better. Do what you can, even if it’s just walking down the street.