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Welcome back to the semester system podcast. I’m Nino Prodan. Yesterday, I was talking about how anger used to consume me how it could steal the joy out of my days and weigh heavily on relationships. And it made me think about a relationship I once had, where we went on a road trip to Pittsburgh from Cleveland, Ohio. So it’s about a two hour drive. We were going there to meet up with her friend, hang out for a night and then drive her back with us. So we get there. We have a wonderful night hanging out, go to leave the next day and I start driving. And as I’m driving her friend starts complaining about my driving, sometimes even yelling distractingly and as she does this, my temper is just simmering, and as it goes on, I finally got to the breaking point and let loose a string of interest. salts that silence the car for the next two hours. And upon driving home, I grabbed my bag. And I said goodbye. Know that I not I did not say goodbye for the sake of seeing you later, I said goodbye. And yes, I know this relationship is over after the way I acted. Now thankfully, nobody was hurting us. And it was a newer relationship. So it wasn’t somebody that was depending on me and had a lot of trust built in me. But what I realized after that was that I needed to get a hold of my anger. And so I started digging into it. Why am I so angry? I asked myself, and what it brought me back to was what I learned from my father. When I was a kid. punishments didn’t just come from wrongdoing, they came from how someone else felt. And so what I’ve learned is that when Someone made me feel something. They were responsible for my anger, and they were deserving of my anger. But I realized that this wasn’t right. So what I had to do was start to reprogram what I was thought, what I was taught what what my upbringing taught me about anger, one that it was okay to unleash it on people to that somebody else was responsible for it. And they deserve the punishment for making me feel that way. And so what I started doing was containing it, controlling it, I’ve built up my willpower to the point where I could stuff it down far enough that it wouldn’t affect the people around me. And I started seeing my relationships become stronger. I started seeing people happier around me, and then I got into a really long relationship and was able to build love Trust and kindness into my relationship. I thought everything was great. But for some reason, during that time I started putting on weight. My hair started getting thinner. And I got to the point of being pre diabetic. And I thought, Oh, it’s my eating or I’m not getting enough exercise. And so I started exercising, and I lost some of the weight. But I was still feeling stressed in my body. And I was still diagnosed pre diabetic. My blood pressure wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t good. Like 135 over 90 ish of my blood sugar was about 110 fasted, so something was up. And thankfully right at that point, I was getting into coaching. And what I learned during coaching Was that your mind and body are both linked on that. One affects the other and what I learned about how anger was affecting me, changed my life forever. And I’ll tell you more about that tomorrow.