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Put It Down! How to Stop Carrying Guilt That Was Never Yours
**Scroll down the show notes for a special announcement!**
Some things that happen to us aren't our fault. But somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned to act like they are.
In this episode, Chel shares a rare, behind-the-scenes moment from her life as a working actress - something that happened on set that stopped her in her tracks. Without giving too much away, it involved someone else's choices, a situation that was entirely out of her control, and her overcoming an old pattern that initially told her to quietly absorb the weight of it so that no one else would be inconvenienced. Sound familiar?
The good news: it had a positive resolution, and the women around her especially showed up supportively. But the real story is what happened in Chel's mind during the moments before that, and what she learned about the deeply ingrained tendency that so many of us have to take on guilt, responsibility, and emotional labor that was never ours to begin with.
This episode covers:
- A candid on-set story that became an unexpected lesson in self-advocacy
- Why so many women default to managing everyone else's comfort, even when they're the ones who were wronged
- How to recognize when you're carrying guilt that belongs to someone else
- The difference between being considerate and being overly responsible for other people's actions and emotions
- How to shed that tendency so you can advocate for yourself clearly and without second-guessing
- What it looks like to let someone else be accountable for their own choices, without making it your job to soften the consequences for them
A note from Chel:
If you have ever found yourself saying sorry for something that wasn't your fault, shrinking so someone else wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable, or lying awake wondering if you handled something wrong when you weren't the one who did something wrong, this episode is going to hit close to home. And that's exactly why she made it.
✨ Before You Go: Something I Made Just for You!
If this episode resonated with you, I think you're going to love what I've been working on: my debut ebook.
This ebook is called The Way Back to Yourself: Soft Strength for Naturally Nice Women, and it is everything that I wish someone had handed me when I was just starting to untangle people-pleasing, self-loathing, guilt that wasn't mine, and the pattern of putting everyone else first. It is practical, it is soul-led, and it was written with you specifically in mind.
Right now you can grab it at the presale price of just $7, but only until June 22. After that it goes to full price at launch. If any part of today's episode had you nodding along, this is your next step.
👉 Grab your copy at the presale price here: soultrip.gumroad.com/l/presale
I cannot wait for you to read it. 🤍
✨ More to Explore
📓 Grab your free guide: 10 Phrases to Help You Stop Being the "Nice Girl" (Without Losing Your Kindness) at soultripwithchel.com
🤍 Join the community on Substack: soultripwithchel.substack.com
If this episode resonated with you, sharing it with a friend or leaving a review helps more women find their way here, and that means the world. ⭐
Soul Trip with Chel is a podcast for women who are ready to stop shrinking and start remembering who they've always been. Chel has been doing this work herself for a decade: learning to accept, trust, and love herself on a deep, unshakable level. Now she gets to guide women like you through that same journey, so you can show up as who you were always meant to be and give your gifts to the world. Soul Trip isn't about fixing yourself. It's about coming home to yourself.
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By Soul Trip with Chel**Scroll down the show notes for a special announcement!**
Some things that happen to us aren't our fault. But somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned to act like they are.
In this episode, Chel shares a rare, behind-the-scenes moment from her life as a working actress - something that happened on set that stopped her in her tracks. Without giving too much away, it involved someone else's choices, a situation that was entirely out of her control, and her overcoming an old pattern that initially told her to quietly absorb the weight of it so that no one else would be inconvenienced. Sound familiar?
The good news: it had a positive resolution, and the women around her especially showed up supportively. But the real story is what happened in Chel's mind during the moments before that, and what she learned about the deeply ingrained tendency that so many of us have to take on guilt, responsibility, and emotional labor that was never ours to begin with.
This episode covers:
- A candid on-set story that became an unexpected lesson in self-advocacy
- Why so many women default to managing everyone else's comfort, even when they're the ones who were wronged
- How to recognize when you're carrying guilt that belongs to someone else
- The difference between being considerate and being overly responsible for other people's actions and emotions
- How to shed that tendency so you can advocate for yourself clearly and without second-guessing
- What it looks like to let someone else be accountable for their own choices, without making it your job to soften the consequences for them
A note from Chel:
If you have ever found yourself saying sorry for something that wasn't your fault, shrinking so someone else wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable, or lying awake wondering if you handled something wrong when you weren't the one who did something wrong, this episode is going to hit close to home. And that's exactly why she made it.
✨ Before You Go: Something I Made Just for You!
If this episode resonated with you, I think you're going to love what I've been working on: my debut ebook.
This ebook is called The Way Back to Yourself: Soft Strength for Naturally Nice Women, and it is everything that I wish someone had handed me when I was just starting to untangle people-pleasing, self-loathing, guilt that wasn't mine, and the pattern of putting everyone else first. It is practical, it is soul-led, and it was written with you specifically in mind.
Right now you can grab it at the presale price of just $7, but only until June 22. After that it goes to full price at launch. If any part of today's episode had you nodding along, this is your next step.
👉 Grab your copy at the presale price here: soultrip.gumroad.com/l/presale
I cannot wait for you to read it. 🤍
✨ More to Explore
📓 Grab your free guide: 10 Phrases to Help You Stop Being the "Nice Girl" (Without Losing Your Kindness) at soultripwithchel.com
🤍 Join the community on Substack: soultripwithchel.substack.com
If this episode resonated with you, sharing it with a friend or leaving a review helps more women find their way here, and that means the world. ⭐
Soul Trip with Chel is a podcast for women who are ready to stop shrinking and start remembering who they've always been. Chel has been doing this work herself for a decade: learning to accept, trust, and love herself on a deep, unshakable level. Now she gets to guide women like you through that same journey, so you can show up as who you were always meant to be and give your gifts to the world. Soul Trip isn't about fixing yourself. It's about coming home to yourself.