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- Episode 113: Mike the Widower Warrior: Grief from a Husband & Father’s Perspective
We talk a lot on this show about what grief looks like for a widow. Today we hear it from a widower — a dad still showing up for his four kids while carrying the loss of his wife. Mike Daniels lost his wife Angela to cancer in 2018, after 16 years together. In this conversation he's honest about the parts of grief men don't usually say out loud: the anger, the doubt, the nights you wrestle with God — and the faith that held anyway.
EPISODE SUMMARY:Mike Daniels is a husband, a father of four, and a widower. When Angela died of cancer in 2018, he was left to raise their children — ages 16, 14, and twin 11-year-olds — through the hardest season of his life. We talk about grief from a man's perspective: why men so often channel pain into anger, what it's like to doubt and still believe, facing death with faith, and where hope actually comes from.
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:Hebrews 11 — the faith chapter; the faithful who "died in faith" still believing (Hebrews 11:13; 11:39-40). Jesus on John the Baptist, that none is "greater born of women" (Matthew 11:11). John the Baptist's martyrdom (Matthew 14).
GUEST: Mike Daniels lives in southern Idaho with his four children (ages 16, 14, and twin 11-year-olds). He was married to Angela for 16 years before she passed from cancer in 2018. He works in construction management, DIYs everything, loves the outdoors and time with his family, and above all is a born-again Christian following his Lord, Jesus Christ.
CHAPTER TIMECODES:CALL TO ACTIONSend this to someone whose hard date is coming. And if you have lost someone — what date is hard for you? Tell me.
LINKSListen: putonyourbiggirlpants.com
Watch: youtube.com/KamilleBauer
Speaking: kamillebauer.com
Social: @KamilleBauer on Instagram, Facebook & Threads
39 min - Episode 112: Grief Has a Calendar — 4 Things That Help on the Hard Days
September 28th is the day my husband died. September 30th is his birthday. Forty-eight hours apart, every year, for eleven years. I recorded this episode on the anniversary itself — and it did not go the way I planned.
FULL SHOW NOTESI woke up fine. I got ready, told myself I had my big girl pants on, and five minutes down the road it slammed into me. I cried the whole way to work, pulled myself together in the parking lot for two meetings, and cried the whole way home.
So this is not an episode about handling it well. It is four things that help, from someone who was still doing it badly that morning — and four things you can do for somebody whose hard date is coming.
Also in this episode: the family member who told my nine-year-old “I don’t celebrate dead people’s birthdays,” why we are eating hamburgers on the 30th anyway, and what my kids and I do at the grave site.
IN THIS EPISODEIf you are the one grieving:
1. Decide before the day what the day is going to look like2. Don’t hold it in — do the thing that lets it out3. Tell someone, or don’t. You don’t owe anyone your grief4. Give grace to the people who say the wrong thingIf you love someone with a hard date coming:
1. Remember the date — put it in your phone and set it to repeat2. Send four words — “thinking about you today”3. Say their name4. Any day matters — even a basic TuesdayCHAPTERS00:00:00 Two dates, forty-eight hours apart
00:01:29 “Get over it — it’s been eleven years”00:02:49 Matthew 7: judge not00:03:30 Grief is like a fingerprint00:03:51 Recording this on the anniversary itself00:04:13 The drive to work, and the parking lot00:05:20 ONE: Decide before the day what the day looks like00:06:23 Why the death day and the birthday are worse together00:07:39 TWO: Do something with it00:08:10 Wyatt, the grave, and the weed whacker00:09:03 Asian Star — Clint’s favorite00:09:42 The burger joint on his fortieth00:09:50 “I don’t celebrate dead people’s birthdays”00:10:34 Grace for the ones who haven’t lost anyone00:10:52 THREE: Tell someone — or don’t00:11:29 1 Samuel 16: the outward appearance00:12:07 FOUR: Give others grace00:13:30 Ecclesiastes 3: a time to mourn and a time to dance00:13:50 The grief train you never bought a ticket for00:14:32 For the supporters: four things00:14:49 Remember the date, and set it to repeat00:15:11 Send four words00:15:39 Say their name00:16:00 Any day can be the hard day00:16:45 Be the angel on a basic Tuesday00:17:49 John 11:35 — Jesus wept00:17:56 Mosiah 18:9 — nobody is asking you to fix it00:18:14 Fat dog day00:19:00 Grief has a calendarSCRIPTURE REFERENCEDMatthew 7:1-2 (02:21) — judge not, that ye be not judged
1 Samuel 16:7 (10:53) — man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heartEcclesiastes 3:4 (13:02) — a time to mourn, and a time to danceJohn 11:35 (17:15) — Jesus weptMosiah 18:9 (17:23) — mourn with those that mournCALL TO ACTIONSend this to someone whose hard date is coming. And if you have lost someone — what date is hard for you? Tell me.
LINKSListen: putonyourbiggirlpants.com
Watch: youtube.com/KamilleBauer
Speaking: kamillebauer.com
Social: @KamilleBauer on Instagram, Facebook & Threads
20 min - Episode 111: How to Be the Friend Who Shows Up
"Let me know if you need anything." You've said it. You meant it. It
has never once worked. Kamille takes apart the most common sentence ingrief and replaces it with four things that actually help someone inthe worst season of their life.FULL SHOW NOTESEveryone says it. Almost nobody realizes it isn't an offer — it's an
assignment, handed to the person least able to carry it. It askssomeone whose life is falling apart to work out what they need, decidewhether you meant it, and then be vulnerable enough to ask.The people who helped Kamille most never said it. The neighbor kids
who ran a lemonade stand during Clint's diagnosis didn't ask. Thefriend who sent a purse, slippers and a card on the first Valentine'sDay after he died didn't ask. They saw the need and they filled it.In this episode she breaks down the four things to do instead —
listen for the need, tell them rather than ask, give them a day theycan move, and feed hearts as well as stomachs — then the four thingsto stop saying, including the one she couldn't even finish writingdown. She talks about what friendship looks like months later, whenthe funeral is over and everyone else has gone back to their lives,and about giving grace to the people who got it wrong.It ends where it should: Job's friends sitting on the ground for seven
days without saying a word, and Hebrews 13:2 — we are all angels foreach other.IN THIS EPISODE- Why "let me know if you need anything" flips the assignment onto the
person already drowning- The lemonade stand, and the Valentine's package that came without
being asked for- How to spot a need when there's no crisis — the "helping scanner"
and listening for distress- Tell them, don't ask: "I'd love to bring you pizza — Wednesday or
Thursday?"- Why a hot meal can feel like an imposition, and what landed better
- Feed hearts, minds and mouths — and never sit on a prompting
- The hug she almost talked herself out of giving
- Four things to stop saying, including "everything happens for a
reason"- After the funeral: the reminder in your phone, and why saying his
name out loud is a gift- "I don't celebrate dead people's birthdays" — and what that cost a
nine-year-old boy- Grace for the people who got it wrong
- Job 2:13 and Hebrews 13:2
CHAPTERS00:00:00 Introduction
00:00:33 "Let me know if you need anything"00:01:53 Why that sentence doesn't work00:04:23 The lemonade stand and the Valentine's package00:06:42 When there's no crisis: listening for the need00:08:57 Tell them, don't ask00:10:56 Why a hot meal can feel like an imposition00:12:37 Feed hearts, minds and mouths00:13:20 The hug I almost talked myself out of00:15:39 Four things to stop saying00:18:32 After the funeral: reminders, and saying his name00:20:26 "I don't celebrate dead people's birthdays"00:22:48 Grace for the ones who got it wrong00:24:27 Job sat on the ground for seven days00:25:59 The errand of angelsSCRIPTURE REFERENCEDMosiah 18:8-9 (00:11) — bear one another's burdens; mourn with those
that mournJob 2:13 (23:54) — seven days on the ground, and none spake a wordHebrews 13:2 (25:26) — entertained angels unawaresCALL TO ACTIONSend this to the friend who's been meaning to reach out and doesn't
know how.LINKSListen: putonyourbiggirlpants.com
Watch: youtube.com/@KamilleBauerSpeaking: kamillebauer.comSocial: @KamilleBauer on Instagram, Facebook & Threads29 min - Episode 110: 3 Things to Do in a Crisis (and Where I’ve Been)
After two years away, Kamille returns with the three things that carried her through the hardest season of her life.
I host a podcast about how to have hope when life is hard. And then life got hard — and I stopped making it. This is where I've been, and the three things that carried me through.
Three things to do in a crisis:
1. Give yourself grace. It's okay to put down what you're supposed to be doing.
2. Give others grace. Someone will say the wrong thing. Someone won't show up. Resentment is heavy, and you can't carry one more thing.
3. Give it up to God. Even when the answer is no, or silence.
And then you repeat it. Because you don't do this once — you do it again tomorrow, and some days you do it again by lunch.
Pray. Believe. Hope. Serve.
About this episode: My husband Clint died of chondrosarcoma in 2015. Four years later I started Put On Your Big Girl Pants, because I've never been able to talk about a hard thing while I'm still inside of it. In 2023 I stepped away from the show — my family needed every single thing I had, and I'd make that decision again tomorrow. This is episode 110, and Season 6 starts now.
New episodes the 1st and 3rd Thursday of every month.
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Db_GoJQWXRg
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14 min - Episode 109: When Cancer Changes Everything — Even Family Relationships
Grief doesn’t happen in a straight line. When cancer takes someone you love, the loss ripples outward—into identity, family dynamics, and relationships we never expected to fracture.
In this podcast, I talk about the ripple effect of cancer loss, the complicated grief that follows, and the pain of parent–young adult child estrangement that can emerge in the aftermath. This is a space to name the grief that often goes unspoken—the kind that comes with confusion, silence, and broken expectations.
If you’re grieving more than one loss at the same time, you are not alone. Healing doesn’t mean minimizing the pain. It means allowing yourself to acknowledge all of it.
Thank you for being here. 🤍 — Kamille Bauer
#griefandloss #cancergrief #complicatedgrief #estrangement #parentchildestrangement #youngadultchildren #griefjourney #healingafterloss #traumagrief #ambiguousloss #familyestrangement #mentalhealthawareness #griefsupport #lossandhealing #KamilleBauer
13 min - Episode 108: How to Survive Hard
Are you going through hard times? Do you feel like you are drowning in despair? Kamille shares the three F's to help you through the impossible. These three things are essential when you are trying to survive a challenge in your life.
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
#hardtimehelp #grief #widow #howtosurvivehard #howtocope #howtodealwithchallenge #widowerhelp #widowhelp #howtodohard #howtosurvive #faith #hope
15 min - Episode 107: Teen Mental Health
Do you have teenagers and want to know what signs to watch for to protect and encourage quality mental health? On this episode guest Shirae Durfey shares what she wished she would have known before her son died by suicide. She also shares great ideas to help your family and yourself prioritize mental health.
Are you in the Salt Lake valley and would like to go see Shirae at her esthetics studio? Visit her website www.loveyourfacestudio.com for more information!
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
#mentalhealth #teenmentalhealth #suicideprevention #suicideawareness #parentingteens
27 min - Episode 106: 40 Years | What I wish I Knew
Having just turned 40 Kamille reflects on valuable life lessons she has gained and what she wish she would've known years past. Kamille Bauer is a cancer widow, mother, subsequent divorcee, and now happily married author and life coach that is passionate about helping you through the ‘hard patches’ in your life.
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
This is episode 106 of the Kamille Bauer Podcast. The audio podcast is available on Apple, Amazon Music, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and other podcast sources.
Check out Kamille's Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/KamilleBauer
Find Kamille on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/kamillebauerandclintthecancerwarrior
Linkedin:
https://linktr.ee/kamillebauer
Find Kamille on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/kamillebauer/
13 min - Episode 105 : How to Trust Again – 2 Steps to Move Forward
Is it hard, scary, or paralyzing to move forward in relationships because of the past? In this week's episode learn two ways to get the courage you need to move forward with hope.
Kamille Bauer is a cancer widow, mother, subsequent divorcee, and now happily married author and life coach that is passionate about helping you through the ‘hard patches’ in your life.
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
This is episode 105 of the Kamille Bauer Podcast. The audio podcast is available on Apple, Amazon Music, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and other podcast sources.
Check out Kamille's Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/KamilleBauer
Find Kamille on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/kamillebauerandclintthecancerwarrior
Linkedin:
https://linktr.ee/kamillebauer
Find Kamille on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/kamillebauer/
13 min - Episode 104: How to Forgive When it’s Hard – 3 Steps
Have you been intentionally hurt and are dealing with pain and heartache? Are you trying to forgive and it seems impossible? This week's episode is part one of Kamille's 'Scary Things to Do' in October. She will give you three steps that will help you in forgiving those in your life and letting go and finding peace.
Don't give up if you are hurting, disappointed, heartbroken, or betrayed . If you need help with your challenges you can checkout www.kamillebauer.com and schedule yourself a free 30 minute call to see if Kamille is a good fit for you to walk your journey into increased hope, peace, and happiness.
This is episode 104 of the Kamille Bauer Podcast. The audio podcast is available on Apple, Amazon Music, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify and other podcast sources.
Check out Kamille's Youtube Channel:
https://www.youtube.com/c/KamilleBauer
Find Kamille on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/kamillebauerandclintthecancerwarrior
Linkedin:
https://linktr.ee/kamillebauer
Find Kamille on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/kamillebauer/
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About Put On Your Big Girl Pants
From the publisher's feed
Want to have hope when life is hard?
Having been a young widow at the age of 33 with small children Kamille’s realistic, honest, and humorous approach to her problems and challenges is a breath of fresh air for listeners. Relating to young mothers as well as older widows this podcast inspires listeners as they realize they aren’t alone in their feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and heartache.
Kamille helps listeners see that life can go from bad to worse but if they have faith and trust in The Lord and ‘Put on their big girl pants” Then those hard times will help them strengthen their faith, refine their character, and make them who they were destined to be!