When this is about relationships, putting your partner, lover or spouse under the microscope can cause problems. It can be destructive, expensive when hiring detectives, and downright exhausting. It's not good for ya! Trust and obey 'cause there's no other way, that's what I always say late at night or midday. Sooner or later the truth will come out. Be prepared. 

When is the right time to ask questions especially when a romantic relationship is new? From the start. Don't hold back. This should be the best time to be yourself. The legal term is discovery. You and your new love interest are discovering all things under the sun about each other. You should end the discovery process the moment red flags go up. You should thank God or someone that this honeymoon phase lasts longer than three months. People should take more time getting to know each other whether online or in person or both. Fools rush in where angels fear to tread. Thank you for listening.