Relationship OCD doesn’t look like fear — it looks like doubt, over-thinking, and the constant urge to “figure out” your partner and your feelings.

In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with rOCD coach Samara to talk about how relationship OCD shows up in loving partnerships, why reassurance and analysis make it worse, and how nervous system regulation and IFS can support real healing.

We also explore how isolating and lonely rOCD can feel when no one else truly understands what you’re going through — and why you’re not broken for experiencing it.

This conversation is raw, honest, and for anyone who has ever loved someone and been terrified at the same time.