Queer Divorce Club

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Chrissy shares her personal journey through divorce, from the initial shock and emotional turmoil to co-parenting and rebuilding her life. She discusses the process of choosing mediation, the importance of community support, and the strategies that helped her cope. Chrissy reflects on the ongoing nature of personal growth and the value of viewing life changes as opportunities rather than setbacks. She also offers advice for those just starting their own divorce journey, emphasizing resilience, self-compassion, and the power of community.

In this insightful episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, Flint candidly shares their experiences with two different queer divorces, discussing the emotional challenges and the journey of reconciling their identity within societal expectations. Flint emphasizes the importance of therapy, community support, and rediscovering personal interests as crucial elements of healing and rebuilding life post-divorce.

This conversation delves into the complexities of emotions during life transitions, offering listeners mindfulness practices and self-care strategies, especially beneficial for queer and trans individuals. Flint's story highlights the path to contentment and a fulfilling life, focusing on living intentionally and finding peace in everyday activities. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that provides valuable insights on resilience, healing, and self-discovery.

Music in this episode is from Bungalow Heaven. You can find more music from Bungalow Heaven and singer/songwriter Gretchen DeVault at gretchendevault.com.

Flint (he/him) is a former teacher and current content creator/novice chicken farmer who spent over a decade in the classroom. Over the last few years he's built an online following north of 330,000 on Instagram and TikTok, where he makes videos about trans life and history, education, and queer relationships. His content has been featured in places like USA Today, The Daily Dot, and Newsweek, and he's a frequent partner with organizations such as the National Education Association and The Human Rights Campaign. He has also been divorced twice, and is currently living in the California High Desert with his partner and a menagerie of rescue animals

You can find Flint online on TikTok and Instagram.

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast, Tera is joined by Brenda Bridges, author of "Oh Shit! I'm getting divorced," and a seasoned divorce coach, financial advisor, and certified collaborative divorce mediator. Brenda sheds light on crucial aspects of divorce while debunking prevalent myths surrounding topics like child support, alimony, and the timing of filing. Gain valuable insights and practical advice on navigating divorce with emotional resilience and clarity. Listen now for expert guidance on managing emotions and approaching divorce with empowerment and confidence.

Brenda Bridges: https://bridgingdivorcesolutions.com/

Music in this episode is from Bungalow Heaven. You can find more music from Bungalow Heaven and singer/songwriter Gretchen DeVault at gretchendevault.com.

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club podcast featuring Ashmeeta Madhav, resilience and grief support advocate, and founder of Growth StoryHub. Ashmeeta shares her journey of navigating divorce at a young age, remarriage, and the profound loss of her second husband to a terminal illness, all while raising young children. Through her own experience, Ashmeeta recognized the need for support in processing grief, especially in the context of divorce, where it often goes unaddressed. She offers insights into the multifaceted emotions of grief, strategies for self-compassion, and navigating the process of rebuilding amidst loss. Ashmeeta empowers listeners to honor their intuition, set boundaries, and extend themselves the compassion they deserve during times of grief.

Ashmeeta Madhav, resilience/grief support advocate and the founder of Growth StoryHub, empowers individuals who have experienced sudden or terminal loss and feel stuck, overwhelmed, and vulnerable. Through personal experiences with miscarriage, rejection, and death, she discovered ways to pick herself up and live again. Her latest book, "What's Your Story, # Way to create a reality with your thinking," shares her realizations, tips, tools, and techniques. Her commitment to education showcases her dedication to making a positive impact on the world.

Discover invaluable insights in this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, as Tera sits down with attorney and divorce coach, Amy Neilsen. With her wealth of experience supporting couples through divorce, Amy shares practical tips on navigating a peaceful divorce process and maintaining post-divorce harmony while co-parenting. Drawing from her own journey as a queer divorcee, Amy offers valuable advice on prioritizing your own well-being during the divorce process and ensuring that your needs are met. Tune in as Amy guides us through a process of self-discovery, helping us identify and communicate our needs effectively while navigating the complexities of divorce.

Music in this episode is from Bungalow Heaven. You can find more music from Bungalow Heaven and singer/songwriter Gretchen DeVault at gretchendevault.com.

With nearly a decade of experience as a family law attorney, coming from a family of divorce, and having gone through her own divorce, Amy is an expert in navigating the emotional, logistical and legal aspects of restructuring families. Amy is a California family law attorney and mediator who serves people all over the country as a Certified Divorce Coach. She focuses her work on keeping people out of court and focused on settlement. She has a special interest in supporting members of the LGBTQIA community.

You can find Lisa online at www.bloomlegalcoach.com and on Instagram.

In this episode, we're thrilled to introduce our first guest of the year, Lisa Johnson, co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict divorce coach, and certified domestic violence advocate. Lisa expertly navigates the complexities of supporting children through a high conflict divorce, shedding light on the profound impact that conflict during divorce can have on kids. Throughout our conversation, Lisa shares invaluable strategies for parents facing this challenging terrain, offering insights into creating a safe and supportive environment for children amidst turmoil. Tune in as Lisa provides actionable advice on supporting kids, navigating parenting time with an unstable or unsafe parent, and fostering a secure home environment. Join us as we delve into the essential topic of guiding children through the challenges of divorce with compassion and resilience.

Lisa Johnson Bio

Lisa Johnson (she/her) is the co-founder of Been There Got Out, a high conflict divorce coach and certified domestic violence advocate who has successfully represented herself through scores of court appearances. Her case, published in the Connecticut Law Journal, is being used as legal precedent. Her live testimony helped pass Jennifers' Law in Connecticut, the third state in America to expand its legal definition of domestic violence to include "coercive control." She and her partner, Chris, the male half of Been There Got Out, coach people in high-conflict relationships, divorce, custody battles, and co-parenting hell so they have the chance of the best outcome in family court and beyond. They also offer a weekly Legal Abuse Support Group for those dealing with narcissistic opponents in legal matters. Their book, "Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances'' was released in March 2023.

You can find Lisa online at:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/been_there_got_out/

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Podcast: https://beentheregotout.buzzsprout.com/

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Our Book on Amazon:

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In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, Tera provides an update on the club's progress and shares insights gleaned from her own divorce and rebuilding journey in 2023. Those lessons include how self-compassion has been such an asset to her and other lessons about how to function post divorce with kids.

Tera is a queer writer and coach. After decades of living the heteronormative "perfect" life, Tera decided to lean out, getting divorced and building a queerer life. Today, Tera is writing, running the Queer Divorce Club, and leading peer coaching circles for individuals looking to build the lives they want outside of the mainstream. She lives in West Michigan with her partner Carlie, their three boys, two cats, and two bunnies. Tera and her family love taking outdoor adventures, flowing around a bonfire, playing hide and seek on the regular, and occasionally raising monarch butterflies in their bathroom.

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, join us in a candid conversation with Dr. Joe Kort, a distinguished psychotherapist and the founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Southeast Michigan. Dr. Kort specializes in working with individuals, particularly men, who grapple with the realization of their gay identity while navigating straight marriages. We delve into the challenges of coming out within a marriage, the complexities of remaining in a marriage as a queer individual, and the arduous journey of making it through divorce. Dr. Kort aptly describes the process as brutal, and together, we explore strategies to navigate some of the toughest moments during this transformative period. Join us for insights, resilience, and a discussion about the positive destination that can be reached through the challenges of divorce and coming out.

Dr. Joe Kort

Psychotherapist Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist, author of four books, lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops. Throughout his 36 years of private practice, he successfully has utilized varying therapy modalities to help hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships.

Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and sexual health concerns; "sex addiction," out-of-control sexual behaviors; sexual identity issues; childhood sexual abuse; LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy; and Imago Relationship Therapy.

He is trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing), a safe and effective treatment that can help patients who have suffered for years from anxiety, distressing memories, nightmares, insomnia, abuse or other traumatic events.

Dr. Kort obtained his undergraduate degree from Michigan State University in East Lansing, Michigan, with a dual major in psychology and social work. He earned master's degrees in social work and psychology from Wayne State University in Detroit, Michigan, and a doctorate (PhD) in Clinical Sexology from the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists.

Dr. Kort is the author of three books covering topics such as male sexual identity, relationships, and sexual fluidity. He also is the author of a book for clinicians working with the LGBTQIA population. He has written numerous published journal and magazine articles and is a regular contributor to the online blog for Psychology Today. Dr. Kort is in his third season of Smart Sex, Smart Love, a podcast series featuring a variety of topics – from sexual health issues to parenting conflicts, men's health, sexuality as you grow old, marital problems, dating today, transgender concerns, kink, and much more (www.smartsexsmartlove.com).

Dr. Kort also conducts workshops and intensives for singles and couples.

His career focuses on advancing the social acceptance and professional treatment of issues surrounding sexual health as well as the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender communities.

You can find Dr. Kort online at joekort.com on TikTok @drjoekort on Instagram @drjoekort and on Facebook.

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, we delve into the profound insights of Matthew Phifer, a therapist, speaker, and trainer, specializing in navigating toxic relationships, narcissism, trauma, and emotional abuse. Tera and Matthew focus on the challenging terrain of co-parenting with a toxic ex, stabilizing both yourself and your children after divorce, and healing following a relationship with a narcissist. Matthew shares invaluable tips on establishing boundaries and cultivating a healthier post-divorce life, especially when dealing with an abusive ex-partner. His expertise sheds light on crucial aspects of post-divorce recovery, offering listeners practical guidance and a deeper understanding of the complexities involved. Tune in for a wealth of wisdom and actionable advice from Matthew Phifer on creating a more stable and empowered life after divorce.

Content warning before you listen: Matthew and Tera discuss emotional abuse and living with narcissistic partners. If this content is triggering for you, skip this episode. If you decide to listen, please have a plan for getting the support you need following the episode.

Music in this episode is from Bungalow Heaven. You can find more music from Bungalow Heaven and singer/songwriter Gretchen DeVault at gretchendevault.com.

Matthew Phifer, MSEd, is a therapist, speaker, trainer, and toxic relationship, narcissism, trauma and emotional abuse expert. He is the founder and owner of Matt Phifer Coaching. His trainings, which feature original work, has been presented in multiple states and countries and he is regularly featured on the radio, publications, and online. Matthew's videos attract millions of viewers and his podcast "The Matt Phifer Experience" has been heard in over 100 different countries and is featured on Spotify, Apple Podcast, and Iheart Radio. Matthew has two children (Isaiah and Gabby). He resides in Dallas, Texas after spending nearly 20 years in New York and Washington D.C.

You can find Matthew on TikTok @mattphifercoaching on Instagram @matthewlphifer and on his podcast The Matthew Phifer Experience.

In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club Podcast, I had the privilege of conversing with Samantha Fox, a sexuality and curiosity coach specializing in Late Bloomers. Our discussion delves into the unique experiences of coming out later in life, exploring its profound effects on personal identity, family dynamics, and the journey to finding authenticity for late bloomers. Drawing from her own journey as a late bloomer, Sam shared valuable insights that I connected with, and I'm certain you will too. Sam also underscores the importance of community support as you navigate the intricacies of coming out and divorce. Join us for an insightful conversation that will resonate with anyone on a similar path.In this episode of the Queer Divorce Club, we deep dive into the world of co-parenting. Tera is joined for a second episode with Nina Raff, a therapist who specializes in divorce and co-parenting. Nina offers invaluable guidance on navigating post-divorce parenting. Learn how to maintain a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex, support your children through the challenges of divorce, and manage your own feelings of guilt. Nina's insights provide a wealth of support and information for parents on their divorce journey.

Music in this episode is from Bungalow Heaven. You can find more music from Bungalow Heaven and singer/songwriter Gretchen DeVault at gretchendevault.com.

As a Sexuality Coach, I work with women worldwide who experience a later in life sexual awakening in their attraction to women. I have developed an experiential model that creates a monumental transformation for the women that I work with. This involves unpacking, unlearning, and relearning schemas and narratives that we carry with us due to being born female in a patriarchal society. I am also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in New York. I have a private practice and work with individuals and couples struggling with sexuality, sexual issues, coming out later in life, and intimacy. I pull from various therapy models to work with my clients, which supports my belief that one size doesn't fit all. I have been sought out by women coming out later in life who need help managing internalized homophobia, feelings of guilt and shame, and struggling to embrace and embody their authentic selves. To give women a safe space to explore, find and live their truth and to create an embracing community for women around the globe questioning their sexuality or coming out later in life, I have built the Curious, Questioning, and Coming Out Programs.

You can find Samantha online at lesbiancuriositycoach.com on TikTok @lesbiancuriositycoach on Instagram @lesbiancuriositycoach and on YouTube.