Queer Sex Ed Podcast

Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice.

We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself

Show Links:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear

https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play

https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439 

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407 

https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed

https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/

https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a

http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html

https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/

https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/

https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/

Sex Education Guidelines:

https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/

https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf

https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/

https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/

https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered  1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class

Show notes:

www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe

www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart 

www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay

www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11

www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53

www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/

Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf

www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc

www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns

www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html

www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before!

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT

Show notes:

https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/

https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days

https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know

https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure

https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46 - Patreon Message 47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person 59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm 1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips

Show notes:

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex

https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms

[NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/

[NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/

http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw

Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE 6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT 20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs 32:26 - Patreon Message 36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries 53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing 1:05:53 - Wrap Up 1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant

Show notes:

[Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8

https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women

https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone.

Segments: 3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing 13:13 - Patreon Message 14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT 25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex 36:26 - Effects of Testosterone 49:17 - Effects of Estrogen 1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone 1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone 1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy 1:26:12 -  Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week Show Links: www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women

Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK

https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc

www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies

www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home

www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.)

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people.

Segments: 3:07 - Accountability Corner 6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now 18:55 - Future HHS Regulation Proposed to Allow Discrimination 28:34 - Rope Bondage and Disability 38:35 - Lower Sex Drive on SSRI Medication for Depression 55:27 - Patreon Message 57:54 - Period Sex Taboos 1:14:32 - Fetlife Tips and Navigating Kink as a Newbie Show Links: Make a comment and learn more about new HHS guidelines at www.protecttranshealth.org

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/03/23/indiana-house-passes-controversial-religious-freedom-bill/

https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2018/05/15/10-things-you-need-know-about-tony-perkins-and-family-research-council

http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/

https://www.postroehandbook.com/ 

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area.

Segments: 4:44 - Accountability Corner 8:54 - Word of the Show, Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) 21:08 - Patreon Message 23:43 - Intro to Abortion Rights 26:20 - Pushing Back on Anti-Abortion Propaganda 35:55 - US History of Abortion (1800-1990s) 47:04 - TRAP Laws After PP v Casey Supreme Court Case 1:06:57 - Current State of US Abortion Rights 1:12:35 - What Can We Do to Protect Abortion Rights? Show Links: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2014/05/religious-right-real-origins-107133

https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-extreme-abortion-bans-in-alabama-and-georgia-happened.html

https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/a27615254/abortion-bans-the-south/

https://qz.com/1620691/alabama-abortion-law-kay-ivey-and-the-white-women-for-trump/

https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/georgia-alabama-abortion-ban-hollywood-dont-boycott

https://rewire.news/article/2019/05/21/the-auntie-network-local-funds/

https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Tiller

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time.

Segments: 3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables 8:03 - Kinky Craft Time! 14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables 26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips 40:29 - Patreon Message 43:27 - Kink Doesn't Need to Be Expensive to Be Good 58:16 - Planning Your Cheap Kinky Play 1:06:12 - Tips for Exploring Kink Alone, With Partners, and With Strangers/Acquaintances Show Links: http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_toy_bag.html

https://archive.org/details/ThePrivilegeOfPerversitiesRaceClassAndEducationAmongPolyamoristsAndKinksters

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun.

Segments: 5:56 - Word of the Show, Dick Pic 14:55 - How All Men Benefit From Misogyny #yesallmen 22:30 - Why Are Dick Pics So Bad? 31:36 - Patreon Message   35:06 - What We Mean By "The Male Gaze" 43:05 - Apps Designed By Cis White Men & For Cis White Men 58:00 - Using Tools That Weren't Meant For Us 1:10:08 - Better Online Communication Show Links: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/why-men-send-dick-pics/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/13/magazine/women-coding-computer-programming.html https://www.1843magazine.com/features/the-scientists-who-make-apps-addictive

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring  us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email [email protected] to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to [email protected] for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.