In this episode, Jeremy explains why communication anxiety isn't simply a confidence or mindset problem, but rather a nervous system response.
When we're triggered, our brain shifts into survival mode. We lose access to clear thinking, struggle to find words, and often leave conversations replaying everything we "should have said."
Jeremy introduces a simple, powerful grounding technique—the 5-4-3-2-1 Resourcing Method. This is a practical tool used in trauma-informed therapies to help regulate the nervous system, return to the present moment, and access your natural ability to communicate.

You will learn:
Why communication anxiety is a nervous system response—not a lack of confidence.
What happens in your brain when you enter fight, flight or freeze.
Why positive thinking and mindset techniques often aren't enough.
How unresolved conditioning can keep you stuck in communication anxiety.
What "self-leadership" means and why it's essential for confident communication.
How the 5-4-3-2-1 Resourcing Technique helps you return to the present moment.
Simple ways to regulate your nervous system before meetings, presentations or difficult conversations.
How to move from fear and overthinking into calm, connection and authentic expression.

If you’d like to explore Jeremy’s work further:
→ Free resources and guides
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy
Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

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00:00 Understanding the ventral vagal nervous system
00:29 Effects of threat states on memory and speech
01:14 Recognizing triggers and emotional responses in groups
01:57 The importance of breathing and space creation
02:24 The spiral of helplessness and shame in anxiety
03:13 Introduction to resourcing and trauma therapy techniques
04:09 Using the 5-4-3-2-1 sensory grounding method
05:06 The role of the ventral vagal system in social engagement
06:02 Parts work and internal family systems in anxiety management
07:27 Self-leadership qualities from IFS: the 8 C's
08:12 The subtlety of self-leadership and presence
09:10 Moving from emotional flashbacks to present moment awareness
10:29 Limitations of surface-level mindset techniques
10:59 Deep nervous system and deconditioning work
12:25 Step-by-step guide to the 5-4-3-2-1 technique
13:23 Using visual cues to ground and relax
14:09 Engaging the senses: touch, hearing, smell, taste
16:08 Tuning into the body and feeling safe
17:19 The importance of presence and safety in communication
18:17 Experimenting with grounding and nervous system regulation
18:45 The ongoing practice of nervous system safety and trust

How do you go from being a bullied child with crippling stage fright to becoming the World Champion of Public Speaking? 

In this episode of Radiant Voices, Jeremy speaks with Verity Price, international keynote speaker and 2021 Toastmasters World Champion of Public Speaking.

Verity shares her remarkable journey from being a bullied child who struggled with self-belief to becoming one of the world's most accomplished speakers. Together, they explore the roots of stage fright, the reality of imposter syndrome, and the importance of authenticity in communication.

The conversation dives into storytelling, vulnerability, human connection, and the preparation behind championship-level speaking. Verity also offers practical tools for managing anxiety and stepping into greater confidence, whether on stage or in everyday life.

This episode is a powerful reminder that your voice matters and that the stories you've lived may be exactly what someone else needs to hear.

If you would like to learn more about Verity’s coaching offerings, visit her website: https://verityprice.com/

Follow Verity:
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LinkedIn: veritypricespeaks

You will learn:

Verity's journey from bullying and self-doubt to World Champion speaker

How to overcome stage fright and speaking anxiety

The truth about confidence and imposter syndrome

Why authenticity beats perfection every time

The power of storytelling in communication

How Verity prepared for the World Championship stage

Practical rituals for managing nerves before speaking

Why your personal story matters more than you think

Finding your voice in a world of noise and AI

If you’d like to explore Jeremy’s work further:

→ Free resources and guides

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy

Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

Stay connected

→ Subscribe on YouTube to watch future video episodes https://www.youtube.com/@JeremydeTolly

→ Join the newsletter for reflections, tools, and updates

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00:00 The Heart of Communication

03:12 The Journey to Music and Performance

05:23 Building Confidence Through Experience

09:09 The Unexpected Path to Public Speaking

11:49 Crafting a Compelling Message

14:32 The Art of Storytelling in Speeches

17:59 Preparation and Practice for Success

21:14 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

23:45 The Importance of Authenticity

27:08 Finding Value in Everyday Moments

29:55 The Connection Advantage in Communication

What if the voice in your head isn't who you really are?

In this fascinating conversation, Jeremy de Tolly sits down with Loch Kelly to explore effortless mindfulness, open awareness, and the profound shift from identifying with thoughts to recognizing the awareness that exists beyond them.

The conversation also explores communication anxiety, social anxiety, psychological parts, self-compassion, relationships, flow states, and what awakening to our true nature might mean for individuals and society as a whole.

Loch Kelly is the creator of the Mindful Glimpse app, an award-winning author, meditation teacher, licensed psychotherapist, and founder of the nonprofit Effortless Mindfulness Institute. His work brings together ancient wisdom traditions, neuroscience, and contemporary psychology to help people access what he calls “effortless mindfulness,” a more spacious, compassionate awareness that can relieve suffering at its root. www.lochkelly.org 

Here is 20% off first year of app with 14 day free trial for you and your listeners: https://mindfulglimpses.com/specialoffer/

What effortless mindfulness actually is
Why you're not your thoughts
The difference between concentration and awareness
How to access open awareness in everyday life
Understanding social anxiety through mindfulness
The role of self-compassion and parts work
Bringing awareness into communication and relationships
Flow states, self-transcendence, and true presence
A vision for a more conscious and connected society

If you’d like to explore Jeremy’s work further:

→ Free resources and guides

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy

Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

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00:00 Introduction to Mindfulness and Effortless Mindfulness

04:57 The Journey of Consciousness: From Instinct to Identity

10:13 The Challenges of Effortful Mindfulness

15:00 The Shift from Concentration to Awareness

19:46 Exploring Non-Dual Awareness

25:08 The Direct Path: Glimpses of Effortless Awareness

39:24 Awareness and Consciousness Exploration

43:03 The Shift from Self to Self-Transcendence

48:33 Navigating Social Anxiety and Internal Parts

52:24 Bringing Awareness into Relationships and Communication

58:20 Understanding the Nature of Identity and Flow

01:03:53 The Process of Living in Awareness

01:13:32 The Vision for Collective Human Awakening

Jeremy de Tolly speaks with Dr. Shannon Coates about vocal pedagogy, trauma-informed voice teaching, neurodiversity, and the future of inclusive singing education. Together they explore healthy singing, cultural bias in traditional training, and how voice teaching can become more empowering, student-led, and human-centered.

You will learn:

• What vocal pedagogy actually is — and why it’s more than anatomy and technique

• The difference between prescriptive teaching and student-led learning

• How trauma-informed and neurodiversity-affirming approaches are changing voice education

• Why “healthy singing” is often shaped by cultural and historical bias

• The hidden influence of colonialism and elitism in traditional vocal training

• How collective singing can support emotional regulation and healing

• Why agency and nervous system safety matter in voice lessons

• The importance of inclusive teaching for children and developing voices

• How modern voice teachers can create safer, more empowering learning spaces

• Why singing is deeply connected to identity, expression, and human connection 

Sign up for Shannon’s voiceped 101 course below:

https://drshannoncoates.com/the-voiceped-101-library/

Join her mailing list: https://mailchi.mp/shannon-coates/voicepedrevolution-mailinglist-signup

If you’d like to explore this work further:

→ Free resources and guides

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy

Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

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00:00 Introduction to student-led pedagogy
02:17 Defining vocal pedagogy and its historical context
05:02 Differentiating anatomy and physiology from pedagogy
09:30 Moving away from a prescriptive, competitive approach
12:23 Historical roots of Western classical singing
15:14 Systematization of voice training in academia
20:21 Systemic issues in traditional vocal education
25:38 Myths about "healthy" singing and cultural biases
30:44 The colonial perceptions of belting
34:44 Deconstructing systemic and racial biases
44:36 Community-based and inclusive models
46:40 Neurodiversity affirming approaches
58:45 Teaching children and developmental readiness
1:06:23 Reframing the narrative around children's singing
1:11:56 The power of Choral singing
1:13:23 Starting somewhere as a teacher
1:17:59 Final thoughts

Why does your voice shut down when it matters most?

The answer isn’t confidence - it’s a whole-system issue, starting in your nervous system.

In this episode, voice coach and actor Mattie Shisko explores the powerful link between the nervous system and authentic expression.

We dive into vocal liberation, practical tools to regulate your body and voice, and why safety (not confidence) is the foundation of being heard. Mattie also shares insights from working with politicians and leaders under pressure, revealing what it really takes to sound grounded, clear, and human when it matters most.

Expect practical exercises, fresh perspectives on vocal confidence, and a deeper understanding of how your voice impacts both you and those around you. 

To find out more about polyvagal theory and Mattie’s course:

 https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/

https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/whatispolyvagaltheory

https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/vagusnerve

https://learning.polyvagal.org/courses

You will learn:

Why your voice is shaped by your nervous system

How safety (not confidence) is the foundation of authentic expression

Simple practices to regulate your voice and body

Insights from coaching leaders and politicians under pressure

How your voice impacts connection and how others experience you

The role of play in unlocking a more natural, expressive voice

If you’d like to explore this work further:

→ Free resources and guides

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy

Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

Stay connected

→ Subscribe on YouTube to watch future video episodes https://www.youtube.com/@JeremydeTolly

→ Join the newsletter for reflections, tools, and updates

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00:00 The Power of Voice and Safety

02:49 Liberation Through Voice

05:55 Navigating Political Communication

09:03 The Role of Nervous System Regulation

11:56 Aligning Voice with Intention

14:53 The Importance of Play in Vocal Expression

18:10 Creating Safe Spaces for Expression

20:21 The Impact of Voice on Connection

23:53 Flexibility and Agility in Communication

26:10 The Challenge of Corporate Culture

30:06 The Journey of Self-Discovery Through Voice

What does it take to find your voice when fear takes over?

In this episode of Radiant Voices, Jeremy de Tolly is joined by Toastmaster and speaker Mathew Makoni, who shares his journey from freezing on stage to becoming a grounded, confident communicator.

Together, they explore the relationship between anxiety and excitement, the power of preparation, and how to speak with presence rather than perfection. Matthew offers practical insights on building a strong foundation in public speaking, while also reflecting on the deeper, more personal process of learning to trust your voice.

This is a gentle, honest conversation for anyone who has ever felt nervous, stuck, or unsure when speaking and is ready to begin again.

Visit Mat’s website for more information about his work, key note and bookings: https://mathewmakoni.co.za/

You will learn:

• What to do when you freeze while speaking
• Anxiety vs. excitement: understanding your body’s response
• Why preparation creates confidence (and how to do it well)
• The role of practice, repetition, and structure
• How to use technology for growth without losing confidence
• Speaking with intention: body language, presence, and awareness
• The balance between spontaneity and preparation

If you’d like to explore this work further:

→ Free resources and guides

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy

Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.

https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

Stay connected

→ Subscribe on YouTube to watch future video episodes https://www.youtube.com/@JeremydeTolly

→ Join the newsletter for reflections, tools, and updates

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Chapters:

00:00 Welcome and introduction

02:20 A Toastmaster’s journey

03:00 Understanding nervousness in public speaking

04:57 The difference between anxiety and excitement

07:24 A journey from living in Zimbabwe to thriving in South Africa

09:26 Family influence on communication

11:18 The moment Mat froze on stage

14:25 Overcoming public speaking anxiety

16:03 The importance of a strong foundation

22:10 The story about the rich salesman and the 10 scrolls

22:27 The journey of public speaking - Adding value to your voice

26:00 Public speaking preparation - Follow these steps of success!

31:25 The importance of body language

34:14 Embracing your public speaking journey

38:32 The power of speech writing and structure

42:10 Spontaneous vs prepared speaking

44:00 A technique for over-speakers and ramblers

45:27 Engaging with your audience

46:32 Embracing visibility in the digital age

51:15 Final thoughts

In this powerful conversation, Jeremy sits down with Richmond Heath, a global leader in Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE®), to explore how stress, trauma, and emotional tension are stored in the body and how natural tremors can help release them.

Since introducing TRE® to Australia in 2010, Richmond has taught more than 5000 people to use this profound self-care technique. He has also had more than 10,000 people enroll in his world-first free online TRE® course.

Find out more about Richmond and TRE courses here:
http://www.trecourse.com/
http://www.trecourse.com/advanced
http://www.treaustralia.com/

https://www.facebook.com/richmond.heath

TRE® follow along session with Dr Berceli

You will learn:
What TRE® really is

Flow states and embodiment

Public speaking and performance anxiety

Fight-or-flight and nervous system regulation

Top-down vs bottom-up healing

Spontaneous body movement and release

Safety, expression, and authentic communication

If you’d like to explore this work further:
→ Free resources and guides
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy
Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

Stay connected
→ Subscribe on YouTube to watch future video episodes / @jeremydetolly
→ Join the newsletter for reflections, tools, and updates
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00:00 Introduction to TRE and Richmond Heath

03:56 Understanding TRE: The Basics

08:09 The Experience of TRE: Body and Mind Connection

18:56 Top-Down vs. Bottom-Up Healing

30:32 Embodiment and Flow States

40:08 Navigating Anxiety and Performance

44:02 Finding Authenticity Through Safety

47:03 Mobilization and Emotional States

57:03 Bringing TRE into Daily Life

01:04:17 Conclusion and Future Directions

Support the Radiant Foundation
Providing free trauma tools and support to underprivileged communities in South Africa
https://www.radiantfoundation.org.za/

In this episode, Jeremy explores what happens inside us when we speak, and how to work with the patterns that shape our voice, confidence, and presence.

If you’ve ever experienced your mind going blank, your body tightening, or a sense of anxiety when speaking, this episode will help you understand why, and what you can begin to do about it.

You will learn:

Why speaking anxiety is not a confidence problem
How the nervous system shapes communication
Simple ways to regulate yourself in real time
How to change fear-based speaking patterns permanently
Practical tools or insights you can apply right away

If you’d like to explore this work further:

→ Free resources and guides
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/resources

→ Private coaching with Jeremy
Personalized support to help you move through vocal anxiety and speak with clarity and confidence.
https://www.jeremydetolly.com/coaching

Stay connected

→ Subscribe on YouTube to watch future video episodes https://www.youtube.com/@JeremydeTolly
→ Join the newsletter for reflections, tools, and updates
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00:00 - Introduction
00:31 - Jeremy’s personal singing story and stage fear
05:58 - Long-term patterns of social freeze and shame
07:18 - Root causes: childhood conditioning and core beliefs
08:56 - The journey to feeling socially likable and confident
10:24 - Trusting your voice in flow state
12:23 - Who this work is for
14:23 - Communication patterns in high-stakes environments
18:42 - The power of deep root work and childhood trauma
20:46 - Components of the Radiant Voices Process
22:13 - Grounding through body awareness
26:49 - Breathing techniques
28:18 - Bilateral stimulation for processing feelings
30:26 - Replacing anxiety with positive multitasking
31:24 - Polyvagal theory in action
33:20 - The vagus nerve’s role in voice and emotional regulation
36:39 - Creating performance flow
37:09 - Addressing pre- and post-speaking anxiety with EFT
39:05 - Understanding and healing the shame hangover
41:56 - Exploring the roots of voice blocks in childhood trauma
44:18 - Transforming freeze responses with compassionate inner work
47:06 - The joy of trusting your imperfect, authentic voice
48:06 - Practical tools: speech training, situational practice, and habits
49:01 - Achieving flow and ease in speaking
50:00 - Final encouragement

Support the Radiant Foundation
Providing free trauma tools and support to underprivileged communities in South Africa
https://www.radiantfoundation.org.za/

Welcome to Radiant Voices, a podcast about finding your voice when anxiety, overthinking, or self-doubt get in the way.

Here, we explore how to move from tight, stuck, or second-guessing… to speaking with ease, warmth, and real authenticity.

Through practical tools and honest conversations, you’ll learn how to steady your body, clear your mind, and express yourself with clarity and confidence.