You see the notification about another powerful new tool, and all you feel is tired. It's not laziness or lack of intelligence—it's something that started long before AI existed. Some of us were raised "for the house," taught to follow rules and stay quiet. Others were raised "for the world," encouraged to question and experiment. Here's why that matters: working with AI requires the same back-and-forth negotiation skills that strict, obedience-focused parenting suppresses. If asking "why" was defiance in your childhood, you never developed the muscle to push back and refine until you get what you need. This isn't just about learning technology—it's about who gets to shape our technological future. The tools will keep coming. The question is: will we give ourselves permission to engage?