This letter is for the tough ones. The ones who were told they “should be a lawyer when they grow up” or they “have a chip on their shoulder.” The ones who’ve been called intimidating, or intense. Or know survival mode better than rest.

Cause when you’ve lived like this, choosing softness is not easy. It’s radical. It’s uncomfortable. For them and for you. Sometimes it feels like a language you forgot how to speak. Or didn’t even learn to begin with.

The trends will tell you to make it your whole identity - but what if you just let it be your peace? You’re allowed to savor the small things and still want the big ones. You can still keep your edge.

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