THE MEDITATION 

In this episode, Kathryn introduces a soothing guided meditation led by Liz, inspired by insights from parenting expert Wendy O'Leary. Grounded in the realization that much of daily parenting anxiety the worry, striving, and fear of getting things wrong stems from a deep place of care, this practice offers a gentle reset. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Uncovering Love Beneath Fear: Parenting anxieties, fear of failure, and worry about a child's struggles are often misdirected expressions of deep love.

Proactive Grounding: Recalling feelings of warmth and gratitude for your child early in the day makes it easier to respond with patience when stressful moments inevitably arise.

Releasing the Need to Fix: Stepping out of "problem-solving mode" during meditation helps soften physical tension, lower anxiety, and ease the pressure of striving for perfection.

Mutual Growth: Difficult parenting moments are a natural part of development; both parents and children are continually learning and discovering the world together.

Savoring the Small Details: Dwelling on simple, joyful sensory memories—a child's smile, giggle, or soft hand—serves as an immediate anchor for self-compassion and calm.

BEST MOMENTS

"So much of our parenting comes from fear... and underneath all of that fear is something much warmer: love."

"There's nowhere else you need to be, nothing you need to solve, nothing you need to fix—simply this moment."

"You get to love this wonderfully unique little person exactly as they are.”

"Parenting is hard sometimes. Children are learning and growing, finding their way in the world—and so are we."

"The love we feel for our children is always there, even when we can't reach it in the moment."

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5XFuo8QFk1E7UMlapBC1g8?si=92430a2ae6234466 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/7-1-wendy-oleary-self-compassion-vs-self-esteem-what/id6783327960?i=1000785357116 

LINK TO THE CONVERSATION

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0syrecd9o84TxEGNbABBq4

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/7-2-how-self-compassion-changes-your-parenting-debrief/id6783327960?i=1000785843600

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/  

THE CONVERSATION 

Ever feel like your inner critic takes over the moment parenting gets tough? We sit down in the lounge to debrief our insightful conversation with educator and author Wendy O’Leary. Together, we unpack how self-compassion isn't just a nice idea - it's an essential, daily practice for both adults and young minds. From practical grounding techniques like "seat and feet" to soothing emotional tools like "feeling rocks" and the power of saying "of course," this warm, honest chat explores how showing kindness to yourself directly shapes the voice your child carries within. Discover how early intervention, playful connection, and gentle self-talk can help your family ride life's biggest waves with resilience, warmth, and joy. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

QUOTES

"The earlier we introduced them, the more naturally they'll become part of who they are." 

"Learning to relate to ourselves in a kind and compassionate way, especially when things are difficult." 

"When we do go out of our comfort zone... learning is hard." 

"When we're kind to ourselves, we're more likely to be open to that experience of joy."  

"With self-compassion, you can ride bigger waves." 

EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 – Welcome to the Lounge

02:07 – The Power of Living, Breathing Practice

06:47 – Feeling Rocks & The Self-Compassion Blanket

10:49 – Taming the Inner Critic

18:54 – Practical Grounding: Seat & Feet

24:33 – Riding the Big Waves of Life

33:04 – The Magic of "Of Course, Sweetheart"

36:30 – Connection Through Play & Curiosity

40:33 – Closing Reflections

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5XFuo8QFk1E7UMlapBC1g8

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/6-1-wendy-oleary-self-compassion-vs-self-esteem-what/id6783327960?i=1000785357116

YouTube Podcasts:

https://youtu.be/GEwik5UNt4I

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

THE INTERVIEW

Ever wondered what happens when we stop trying to fix every meltdown and simply help our children ride the wave instead? In part one of this warm conversation, educator and author Wendy O’Leary joins Kathryn Lovewell and Liz Walker to consider why self-compassion might be the most vital protective factor we can offer young minds. Moving beyond traditional self-esteem, Wendy shares how shifting away from achievement-based praise creates space for authentic growth and emotional resilience. From simple gestures like placing a hand on the heart to comforting self-talk, discover practical ways to model self-kindness at home, even when parenting feels completely overwhelming. If you want to help your child replace their inner critic with a supportive best friend, this episode offers a gentle, transformative starting point. 

00:00 – Why Children Need Self-Compassion First

02:00 – Early Signs: Spotting Frustration in Young Kids

10:11 – The Three Pillars: Mindfulness, Humanity & Kindness

19:55 – Self-Compassion vs. Self-Esteem Explained

31:27 – Practical Daily Tools for Parents and Caregivers

43:33 – Looking Ahead to Part Two

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

HOW TO CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-oleary-76299b22/

https://www.instagram.com/wendy_oleary_mindfulmatters/

FIND WENDY’S BOOK HERE

https://link.amazon/B0dsTPiMz

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@raisingkindmindspodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

Key TakeawaysQuotes
Chapter Timestamps

THE MEDITATION 

In this episode, Lovely Liz and meditation guide Kathryn lead a tender, heart-centered practice focused on self-compassion and gentleness. Inspired by guest Wendy O'Leary, the episode breaks down a three-part framework for compassionate self-talk combining common humanity, mindful naming of pain, and affection. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Physical Touch Soothes the Nervous System: Placing one or both hands over your heart offers a physical signal of warmth, safety, and self-care to your body.

Validating Your Struggle: Recognising that feeling overwhelmed or making mistakes doesn't mean you are failing; it simply means you are human.

Reflecting Love Inward: The deep affection and joy felt when visualizing a loved child can be intentionally turned inward to heal your own inner child.

Modeling for the Next Generation: The internal dialogue children develop as they grow up begins with the words they hear from caregivers - including the words caregivers say to themselves.

QUOTES

"At the heart of everything, being kind and gentle to yourself as you would be to someone you love is the key."

"We know that this kind of gentle, loving touch begins to soothe your nervous system. It signals: I am here, and I can tend to myself."

"You are not failing; you are simply being human."

"You do not have to have it all worked out before you can be kind to yourself."

"The voice a child grows up with begins with what they hear from you. It begins with what you say to yourself."

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5LHWMpDu2IwxrLZhSJiGcU?si=2787d82abdde4ad8 

Apple Podcasts: 

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/6-1-wendy-oleary-self-compassion-vs-self-esteem-what/id6783327960?i=1000783707891 

LINK TO THE CONVERSATION

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/713CvNmvSxNdGVxBcLKoBh?si=eabf76753305413a

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/6-2-how-self-compassion-changes-your-parenting-debrief/id6783327960?i=1000784183215

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/  

THE CONVERSATION 

Ever feel like your inner critic takes over the moment parenting gets tough? We sit down in the lounge to debrief our insightful conversation with educator and author Wendy O’Leary. Together, we unpack how self-compassion isn't just a nice idea—it's an essential, daily practice for both adults and young minds. From practical grounding techniques like "seat and feet" to soothing emotional tools like "feeling rocks" and the power of saying "of course," this warm, honest chat explores how showing kindness to yourself directly shapes the voice your child carries within. Discover how early intervention, playful connection, and gentle self-talk can help your family ride life's biggest waves with resilience, warmth, and joy. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

BEST MOMENTS

"The earlier we introduced them, the more naturally they'll become part of who they are." 

"Learning to relate to ourselves in a kind and compassionate way, especially when things are difficult." 

"When we do go out of our comfort zone... learning is hard." 

"When we're kind to ourselves, we're more likely to be open to that experience of joy."  

"With self-compassion, you can ride bigger waves."

CHAPTERS

00:00 – Welcome to the Lounge

02:07 – The Power of Living, Breathing Practice

06:47 – Feeling Rocks & The Self-Compassion Blanket

10:49 – Taming the Inner Critic

18:54 – Practical Grounding: Seat & Feet

24:33 – Riding the Big Waves of Life

33:04 – The Magic of "Of Course, Sweetheart"

36:30 – Connection Through Play & Curiosity

40:33 – Closing Reflections

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5LHWMpDu2IwxrLZhSJiGcU?si=2787d82abdde4ad8 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/6-1-wendy-oleary-self-compassion-vs-self-esteem-what/id6783327960?i=1000783707891 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

THE INTERVIEW

Ever wondered what happens when we stop trying to fix every meltdown and simply help our children ride the wave instead? In part one of this warm conversation, educator and author Wendy O’Leary joins Kathryn Lovewell and Liz Walker to consider why self-compassion might be the most vital protective factor we can offer young minds. Moving beyond traditional self-esteem, Wendy shares how shifting away from achievement-based praise creates space for authentic growth and emotional resilience. From simple gestures like placing a hand on the heart to comforting self-talk, discover practical ways to model self-kindness at home, even when parenting feels completely overwhelming. If you want to help your child replace their inner critic with a supportive best friend, this episode offers a gentle, transformative starting point. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

00:00 – Why Children Need Self-Compassion First

02:00 – Early Signs: Spotting Frustration in Young Kids

10:11 – The Three Pillars: Mindfulness, Humanity & Kindness

19:55 – Self-Compassion vs. Self-Esteem Explained

31:27 – Practical Daily Tools for Parents and Caregivers

43:33 – Looking Ahead to Part Two

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

HOW TO CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-oleary-76299b22/

https://www.instagram.com/wendy_oleary_mindfulmatters/

FIND WENDY’S BOOK HERE

https://link.amazon/B0dsTPiMz

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@raisingkindmindspodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

THE MEDITATION 

In this soothing practice episode, Liz introduces a gentle guided meditation led by Kathryn, inspired by Mindful Self-Compassion co-founder Dr. Christopher Germer. Centered around the fundamental act of the in-breath, the very first action we take upon entering this world, this practice invites listeners to reframe receiving nourishment as an essential act of self-care rather than a selfish luxury. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Your First Act Was Receiving: The very first breath you took at birth was an in-breath, celebrated by everyone around you as a profound reminder that receiving is inherent to life.

Nourishing Yourself Isn't Selfish: Society often conditions us to believe that giving to others is more important than receiving, but taking in energy and self-care is a vital necessity.

The Breath Does Not Judge: Your breath flows naturally without asking whether you've earned it or deserve it; you are free to accept it unconditionally.

BEST MOMENTS

"The very first breath any of us ever took was an in-breath... and it was celebrated."

"Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that breathing in for ourselves, taking in, receiving, nourishing ourselves was somehow less important than what we give out."

"Your breath does not ask whether you have earned it. It simply flows."

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SAEVD66AD4j2gg6Ni9bUr?si=e2d010b265074db0 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-1-dr-christopher-germer-overcoming-shame-and/id6783327960?i=1000781301570 

LINK TO THE CONVERSATION

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5Bb7f8Ks4aBzg1Gbt8xObo?si=975791ee05db4672 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-2-inhaling-for-yourself-the-power-of-self/id6783327960?i=1000782830184 

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/  

THE CONVERSATION 

Ever wonder if the way you speak to yourself is becoming the inner voice your children adopt? In this warm and reflective conversation, Kathryn Lovewell and Liz Walker unpack key insights from their discussion with Dr. Chris Germer, co-developer of Mindful Self-Compassion. Exploring the contrast between tender and fierce self-compassion, they share personal stories about reframing self-criticism and setting healthier boundaries. Discover how children internalise shame as young as two and a half, why taking a single in-breath for yourself can transform your day, and how modelling self-kindness creates a supportive environment for the whole family. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

BEST MOMENTS

"The moment that we're born, everyone in the room celebrates the fact that we take the first breath in for ourselves."

"The way we talk to ourselves will impact our physiology, impact our internal chemistry, impact the way we feel."

"When we feel guilt, we attack our behaviour... But when we feel shame, we attack ourselves."

"Children can experience, get the full experience of shame by the age of two and a half."

"Self-compassion isn't something we have to earn. It's something we can practice one small moment at a time."

EPISODE CHAPTERS

00:00 Welcome to Raising Kind Minds

01:30 The Golden Gem: Inhaling for Yourself

07:43 Fierce vs. Tender Self-Compassion

12:14 Understanding Shame and Young Children

18:34 Modelling "Booster" over "Crusher"

21:35 Guilt vs. Shame: A Vital Distinction

25:34 Learning to Love Yourself Up

31:08 Final Reflections & Guided Practice

TAKE THE SELF-TALK QUIZ

https://bit.ly/RKMSelfTalk

LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1SAEVD66AD4j2gg6Ni9bUr

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-1-dr-christopher-germer-overcoming-shame-and/id6783327960?i=1000781301570

HOW TO CONNECT WITH YOUR HOSTS

https://RaisingKindMindsPodcast.com

https://KindMindAcademy.com

https://TheBoosterWay.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/KathrynLovewell

https://www.linkedin.com/in/LizWalker8

CONNECT WITH RKM ON SOCIALS

https://www.facebook.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.instagram.com/RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

https://www.tiktok.com/@RaisingKindMindsPodcast

HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/

THE INTERVIEW 

Ever wondered how your self-talk quietly shapes the inner voice of the children around you? In this heartwarming conversation, clinical psychologist Dr Chris Germer joins us to unpack the origins of shame and why self-compassion is the ultimate antidote. From developmental phases in early childhood to his own decades-long battle with public speaking anxiety, Chris shares how loving yourself through moments of struggle can completely transform your life. We explore practical ways caregivers can move away from perfectionism, embrace being a "compassionate mess", and introduce gentle micro-practices into busy family routines. Tune in for a reassuring guide to building emotional resilience and treating yourself with genuine warmth.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

BEST MOMENTS

"When we feel guilt, we attack our behavior. Whereas when we feel shame, we attack ourselves."

"The best way to teach self-compassion is to be compassionate."

"I didn't know I could love myself."

"We practice not to feel better, but simply because we feel bad."

"We practice not to improve ourselves or not to perfect ourselves, but to perfect our love."

CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – What is Shame?

05:47 – Embarrassment vs Shame

08:21 – Unpacking the Inner Critic

12:36 – When Shame Develops in Childhood

18:53 – The Three Pillars of Self-Compassion

24:33 – How Caregivers Model Compassion

31:06 – Dr Chris Germer’s Personal Journey

41:01 – The Two Paradoxes of MSC Practice

48:02 – Debunking Myths Around Self-Compassion

57:09 – In for Me, Out for You: A Simple Practice

01:04:37 – Embracing Being a Compassionate Mess

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HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

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THE MEDITATION

In this episode, Kathryn introduces a soothing guided meditation practice led by Lovely Liz, inspired by a conversation with Joy Huang. Designed for parents, caregivers, and anyone navigating life's daily pressures, this practice invites you to step into the role of a "gentle detective" of your inner world. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Become a Gentle Detective: Approach your inner thoughts, emotions, and exhaustion with curiosity, openness, and warmth rather than harsh self-criticism.

Worry Stems from Love: Your worried or anxious inner parts are not your enemies; they appear because you care deeply about your children, relationships, and responsibilities.

Release Perfectionism: You do not need to be 100% perfect. Showing up with a kind heart 60% of the time is more than enough.

BEST MOMENTS

"Become a gentle detective... not a critic, but just a gentle detective: curious, open, and kind."

"That worried part is not your enemy. It's there because it loves, because it cares deeply."

"You don't have to be 100% perfect today. 60% shown up with a kind heart is more than enough."

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LINK TO THE INTERVIEW 

Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/0FrmtYb3WSe4UJ6E0e17jV?si=2def957fece04f8d 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/4-1-joy-huang-why-your-inner-voice-matters-more-than/id6783327960?i=1000779587789 

LINK TO THE CONVERSATION

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https://open.spotify.com/episode/2glt3beghq6t4FTF0njXUl?si=d09748812f2e47b6 

Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/4-2-ditch-the-perfect-parent-trap-embracing-good/id6783327960?i=1000779960353 

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HOST BIOS

Kathryn Lovewell is the founder of Kind Mind Academy, an award-winning international speaker and best-selling author specialising in Self-Compassion. A Senior Certified Mindful Self-Compassion Teacher and creator of The Booster Way®, she has spent over a decade helping adults, families, and educators transform self-criticism into confidence and self-trust. Kathryn blends science, storytelling, and humour to make personal growth relatable, and accessible. She’s real, she’s been there, and she’s passionate about helping people stop beating themselves up and start living happier, kinder lives. Grounded, heartfelt, and a little mischievous, Kathryn believes laughter and compassion are equally powerful medicine.

Liz Walker is the co-founder of Kind Mind Academy and co-host of Raising Kind Minds. Known for her warmth, humour, and emotional intelligence, Liz brings genuine humanity to every conversation. With decades of experience in business, personal development and client care, she pairs practical wisdom with deep compassion. Liz doesn’t do hype; she believes real change begins with honesty, kindness, and a good laugh at ourselves now and then. She is passionate about helping people feel seen, safe, and supported as they learn to lead their lives with more self-belief and joy.

This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/