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For a lot of neurodivergent people, especially those living with ADHD, autism and trauma, ambiguity doesn’t land as “nothing is happening yet.” It lands in the body. As activation. As tension. As a quiet fear that something might change… and you may not be ready for it.

In this episode of Dating on High Alert, I explore why unclear signals, emotional distance, inconsistency, or “not knowing where you stand” can feel so intense when your nervous system has been shaped by survival.

This isn’t about being needy, dramatic, or over-sensitive.
 It’s wiring. It’s pattern-recognition. It’s protection.

We talk about:

• how a trauma-shaped nervous system reads uncertainty
• why “waiting” doesn’t always feel neutral
• the link between attachment, safety, and emotional ambiguity
• how to notice what’s happening in your body, without shaming yourself for it
• ways to ground yourself when your system goes into alert mode

If you’ve ever felt like you react “too deeply” to mixed signals or emotional gaps, this episode is here to help you feel understood, not broken.

🧠 You’re not overreacting. Your system just learned to protect you.
🎧 Listen in, and let’s make sense of it together.

🎧 Subscribe, share, and spiral with me.

For more raw, honest takes on dating, ADHD, trauma, and being a woman on high alert — head to iljaabbattista.co.uk

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