Real Life with RDU Therapy

Why do loving, dedicated parents sometimes end up yelling at the people they love most?

In this episode of Real Life with RDU Therapy, therapist Sara Hudson turns the tables and interviews psychologist, speaker, and author Dr. Melanie McCabe. Together, they unpack why so many good parents lose their patience, what is actually happening in those heated moments, and the simple shifts that can help families move from constant conflict to stronger connection.

You'll learn:

• Why yelling is often a symptom, not the root problem.
• What is happening in your brain when emotions take over.
• The biggest parenting mistake Dr. Mel wishes families would stop making.
• Practical strategies you can start using today to create a calmer home.
• Why you're not failing, even if parenting feels incredibly hard right now.

Whether you're raising a child with big emotions, navigating daily power struggles, or simply trying to become the parent you want to be, this episode will leave you feeling understood, encouraged, and equipped with practical tools you can actually use.

Learn more about RDU Therapy's therapists, parenting resources, and services at RDUTherapy.com.

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Instagram: @DrMelanieMcCabe

Get a FREE sample chapter of Dr. Melanie McCabe's upcoming book Not Broken here:
dr-melanie-mccabe.kit.com/chapter1-2026

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9/30/25

Today’s conversation goes beyond the therapy room and into the decisions shaping mental health at a community level.

I’m joined by Dr. Cheryl Stallings, Wake County Commissioner and licensed psychologist, along with psychologist Emily King, to unpack what is actually happening behind the scenes when it comes to mental health, schools, and family support systems.

We talk about the realities families are facing right now, how local policy decisions impact access to care, what happens when schools and systems are stretched thin, and where families are being asked to carry more than they should.

This is not a fear-based conversation. It is a clear, grounded look at what is real, what is changing, and where families can focus their energy.

If you have ever felt like you are doing everything you can and it still feels like too much, this episode will help you understand why and what actually helps.

Contact Commissioner: Dr. Stallings 

Email: [email protected]

Contact Emily King, PhD

Instagram: @emilykingphd

Website: learnwithemily.com

Find me,  https://substack.com/@drmelaniemccabe

website: DrMelanieMcCabe.com

Website: RDUTherapy.com 

Instagram: @drmelaniemccabe

9/30/25

If your child is an athlete, this is information you cannot afford to miss.

Concussion treatment has changed significantly over the last decade, yet many parents, coaches, and even athletes are still following outdated advice that can delay recovery.

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Paul Cohen to talk specifically about concussions in youth athletes. From soccer to football to cheer to lacrosse, we break down what actually happens in the brain, why “rest until symptoms are gone” is no longer the gold standard, and how early, guided return to activity is changing outcomes.

We also get into the real-life pressure athletes feel to get back in the game, how to navigate return-to-play decisions, and what parents should be watching for on the sidelines and at home.

In this episode, we cover:
• How concussion treatment for athletes has evolved over the last 10 years
• Why complete rest can backfire and what to do instead
• The updated return-to-play approach for youth sports
• Signs your athlete is not ready to go back yet
• The overlap between concussion symptoms and emotional or behavioral changes
• What to say when your child wants to “push through it”
• When to see a specialist and what modern concussion care looks like

If your child plays sports at any level, this conversation will help you protect their brain, support their recovery, and make confident decisions when it matters most.

Resources & Links:
Learn more about Dr. Paul Cohen: https://orthonc.com/who-we-are/physicians/dr-paul-cohen

Instagram: @theconcussiondoc
More from me:
• https://rdutherapy.com

• https://drmelaniemccabe.com

Instagram: @drmelaniemccabe

@RDUTherapy

9/30/25

What does ADHD actually look like in women and why are so many high functioning, successful women just now getting diagnosed?

In this episode, I sit down with Peyton Gemmell, founder of Lightminded, to talk about ADHD in women, late diagnoses, and what it really takes to thrive as a neurodivergent woman in a neurotypical world.

We break down the subtle ways ADHD shows up differently in women, especially moms and high achieving professionals who have learned to mask, overcompensate, and push through. Peyton shares how chronic overwhelm, burnout, emotional dysregulation, and feeling “behind” are often misunderstood signs of ADHD, not personal failure.

We also talk about:
How ADHD presents differently in women versus men
The link between ADHD, anxiety, and burnout
Why so many women are diagnosed later in life
Practical strategies for emotional regulation and executive functioning
How to move from survival mode to actually thriving
What neurotypical moms and women need to understand about ADHD

Whether you are a woman with ADHD, wondering if you might be, or a parent trying to better understand your child or yourself, this episode will help you feel seen and give you real, usable tools.

Peyton brings a compassionate, real world perspective that helps women stop blaming themselves and start building lives that actually work for their brains.

Connect with Peyton Gemmell:
Lightminded: https://www.lightmindedot.com/

Instagram: https://instagram.com/lightminded.ot

Connect with Dr. Melanie McCabe:
Website: https://www.rdutherapy.com

Website: https://www.drmelaniemccabe.com

Instagram: @drmelaniemccabe

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9/30/25

What happens when the messages you learned about sex, gender, and relationships long before adulthood still shape the way you connect today?

In this episode of Real Life with RDU Therapy, I sit down with Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema of Let’s Heal Together to talk about purity culture, high control religious environments, attachment, communication, intimacy, grief, and healing in relationships. Jeremiah and Julia are licensed relationship therapists and certified sex therapists, and they specialize in helping individuals and couples rebuild healthier patterns around connection, sexuality, and emotional safety. Let’s Heal Together offers relationship and sex therapy, including co therapy, and also supports people navigating deconstruction and recovery from purity culture. 

We talk about how early messages around gender, sexuality, and “being good” can show up years later in adult partnerships, why couples often get stuck in criticism, repetition, and outdated assumptions, and how healing often happens through kindness, play, pleasure, pacing, and honest communication. Jeremiah and Julia also explain why sex therapy so often involves grief, and how relationships can survive major identity shifts when beliefs, faith, or community ties begin to change. 

If you grew up with shame based messages about bodies, intimacy, marriage, or gender roles, or if you are trying to build a healthier relationship after purity culture or a high control religious background, this conversation will leave you feeling less alone and more hopeful.

In this episode, we cover:
purity culture and abstinence only messaging
how childhood and religious messages affect adult relationships
attachment, communication, and conflict in couples
grief, intimacy, and sexual healing
deconstruction, faith shifts, and partnership stress
how co therapy can help couples feel supported and understood

Connect with Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema
Let’s Heal Together https://www.letshealtogether.org/
Instagram: @sexvangelicals
Podcast: Sexvangelicals

Connect with Dr. Melanie McCabe / RDU Therapy
https://rdutherapy.com/

https://drmelaniemccabe.com/

Instagram: @dr_melanie_mccabe and @rdu.therapy 

9/30/25

What if your “gifted” child is not just advanced, but overwhelmed, misunderstood, or struggling in ways no one is talking about?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Matt Zaretsky, clinical psychologist and expert in gifted and neurodivergent kids, to unpack what giftedness really looks like and why so many of these children are missed, mislabeled, or expected to just “be fine.”

We talk about emotional intensity, ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and what it actually means to be twice-exceptional (2e). If your child can be incredibly capable in one moment and completely dysregulated the next, this conversation will likely hit home.

Dr. Matt explains why giftedness is a form of neurodivergence, how the brain contributes to big feelings and uneven skills, and why traditional school environments often fail these kids.

We also get practical about what parents can do when schools minimize concerns, how to pursue testing, and how to create environments where kids can truly thrive, not just cope.

If you are raising a child with big emotions, high intensity, or a brain that does not fit the typical mold, this episode will help you understand what is happening and how to support them more effectively.

What giftedness actually means beyond being “smart”
Why gifted kids often have big emotions and struggle with regulation
The overlap between giftedness, ADHD, and autism
What “twice-exceptional” (2e) means
Why many gifted kids are missed in school systems
What to do when your child is labeled as “fine” but you know something is off
How to advocate for testing, support, and the right environment
Why connection and belonging are critical for neurodivergent kids

Learn more about Dr. Matt’s clinical work:
https://www.theneurodiversitycollective.com

Book Dr. Matt for speaking and trainings:
https://www.drmattzakreski.com

Get the book The Neurodiversity Playbook:
https://www.amazon.com

Learn more about Dr. Melanie McCabe and RDU Therapy:
https://www.rdutherapy.com

https://www.drmelaniemccabe.com

Follow along on Instagram:
@drmelaniemccabe

9/30/25

We all need to be paying attention to what WCPSS (the largest school district in NC and 15th largest in the US) does in this moment.

Today, Dr Emily King talks with myself and Dr. Matt Zakreski, all 3 psychologists who know schools and neurodivergent kids well. The impact of these proposed cuts goes beyond students receiving special education services and their teachers. It's going to affect everyone.

9/30/25

In this episode of Real Life with RDU, I sit down with Amber Lynn Richardson, author, life coach, and speaker, for a thoughtful conversation about motherhood, burnout, women’s mental health, and what it means to reconnect with yourself when life has pulled you in too many directions.

Amber shares the personal story that shaped her work, including motherhood, caregiving, grief, chronic overwhelm, and the moment she realized life could not keep feeling this hard. We talk about the invisible emotional load so many women carry, how burnout can show up in both mind and body, and why so many moms look like they have it all together while quietly feeling exhausted, disconnected, and stuck.

We also dive into Amber’s book, Seasonal Syncing, and her framework for understanding different seasons of life. This conversation explores how women can stop forcing themselves to keep producing, start listening to what their body and mind are telling them, and move toward more harmony, healing, and wholeness.

In this episode, we cover:
motherhood and emotional exhaustion
women’s mental health and burnout
the pressure moms feel to hold everything together
how stress can show up physically in the body
the difference between therapy and life coaching
intergenerational healing and modeling wellness for our kids
why self care is not selfish
how women can reconnect with themselves in a practical way

If you are a mom, a woman feeling overwhelmed, or someone trying to support the women in your life, this episode will speak to you.

Connect with Amber Lynn Richardson:
Website: amberlrichardson.com
Instagram: @lifewithcoachamber
LinkedIn: Amber Lynn Richardson
Book: Seasonal Syncing on Amazon

Connect with me:
drmelaniemccabe.com
rdutherapy.com
Instagram: @drmelaniemccabe

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9/30/25

Moms are expected to emotionally regulate everyone in the house.

But what happens when her own mental health is struggling?

In this episode of Real Life with RDU, I sit down with Dr. Priscilla Hidalgo of Lux Psychiatry, PLLC to talk about maternal mental health, anxiety, depression, postpartum changes, and the role medication can play in emotional regulation and family stability.

We talk about:

• How untreated anxiety and depression impact parenting
• The difference between stress and a clinical mental health concern
• Medication during pregnancy and postpartum
• Why stigma keeps high functioning moms from getting help
• What emotionally regulated parenting actually requires

Here is the truth. Parents cannot teach emotional regulation skills while chronically dysregulated themselves. Mental health support is not weakness. It is responsible leadership inside your family.

If you work with children, support families, or are a parent yourself, this conversation matters.

Share this episode with a mom who carries too much quietly.

Connect with Dr. Priscilla Hidalgo
Lux Psychiatry, PLLC
Website: www.luxpsychiatry.com

8396 Six Forks Rd., Ste 104
Raleigh, NC 27615
Phone: 919 646 1914
Fax: 352 204 1963
Instagram: @luxpsychiatry
Facebook: Lux Psychiatry PLLC

Listen wherever you get your podcasts and follow for more parenting psychology, emotional regulation skills, and real conversations about family mental health.

9/30/25

In this episode of Real Life with RDU Therapy Dr Melanie McCabe sits down with Brittni Winslow owner and executive director of Emerge Pediatric Therapy to talk about what occupational therapy actually looks like in real family life. Together they unpack how kids build confidence regulation and independence and how parents can support those skills without turning every moment at home into a therapy session.

Brittni shares what she sees most often when families first reach out feeling overwhelmed unsure and stuck in daily routines that have become power struggles. She breaks down common misconceptions about occupational therapy sensory needs and executive functioning and offers practical shifts parents can try right away to make mornings homework time and transitions feel more manageable.

The conversation also explores Brittni’s Task Masters program and why supporting tweens and teens with follow through and ownership can change the emotional tone of an entire household. This episode is grounded hopeful and honest about the challenges parents face while raising kids with big emotions and growing responsibilities.

Whether you are parenting a toddler a school aged child or a teen this episode will leave you feeling less alone more confident and better equipped to support your child in everyday moments that matter.

Learn more about Brittni and her team at Emerge Pediatric Therapy
https://emergepediatrictherapy.com

Follow RDU Therapy on Instagram for family centered mental health support and resources
https://www.instagram.com/rdutherapy

Connect with Dr Melanie McCabe on Instagram for parenting insights clinical expertise and real life conversations
https://www.instagram.com/drmelaniemccabe

9/30/25