In this episode, we’re busting one of the biggest myths in the doula world—the idea of the “dream client.” 

Amy, Christina, and Delanie dive deep into the truth that real compatibility matters more than a picture-perfect vision of the ideal client. We talk about why chasing the “dream” can lead to burnout, mismatched expectations, and missed connections—and how finding clients who are aligned with who you actually are makes for more meaningful, sustainable support.

In this episode, we explore:

• What the “dream client” myth really looks like—and why it’s not realistic
• The power of compatibility and emotional alignment in client relationships
• How our quiz results helped us reflect on our doula identities and client matches
• Red flags & green flags during consults
• Why it’s okay to refer out when the fit isn’t there
• How to market yourself to attract clients who actually vibe with you
• Real-life stories of unexpected client matches that turned out beautifully

Whether you’re a new doula figuring out your client style, or a seasoned pro who’s ready to drop the pressure of being everyone’s doula—this one’s for you.

Tune in and join the convo on choosing real over ideal.

Want to take our quizzes? Check them out here! 

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