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Rebecca Zimmerman - Running the Numbers to Stay Alive
Survivors of domestic violence are great at running calculations. Their minds are a series of “if, then” statements attempting to live in peace; to avoid pain; to stay alive. Many survivors go so far as to try to perfect themselves, thinking the power and control to stop the pain inflicted by their abusers lies with them. Once again, we see a deeply empathetic person preyed on and that empathy turned against her by an abuser.
Rebecca Zimmerman endured various forms of abuse at the hands of her boyfriend then husband for nine years. One of the least appreciated and understood forms of domestic violence is financial abuse. Jonathan, her abuser, is a senior manager in Denver at one of the top four global accounting firms. A numbers expert, he used his expertise in managing finances to control and abuse Rebecca. Reprimanded for buying a $20 bottle of wine when she could have bought one for $10; unable to work outside the home by refusing to pay for childcare; hacking into financial accounts even after they were divorced - Jonathan controlled her life through money, as well as emotional and physical violence.
It took Rebecca 15 attempts at police contact over a period of three months before her by-then-ex-husband was arrested and charged with a crime. He plead guilty to various charges of domestic violence. A deferred sentence and sealed case file allows him to maintain a public façade as a nice, respectable, professional numbers guy.
Listen to and learn from Rebecca yet another form of domestic / intimate partner violence. Pay attention to red flags of financial and electronic control to keep yourself and others safe.
Rebecca lives in Denver with her two daughters. She has made ending Intimate Partner Violence her life’s work, and begins a doctoral program at University of Denver in fall 2020.
Resources that Rebecca wants to share with you:
- Violence Free Colorado: https://www.violencefreecolorado.org/
- Seeking Safety by Lisa Najavits: https://books.google.com/books?id=BGwQDgAAQBAJ&lpg=PR1&ots=WtG8R5w-Lp&dq=seeking%20safety%20trauma%20informed%20care&lr&pg=PP1#v=onepage&q&f=false
- We Are Seeds Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WeAreSeedsSurvivors
Rebecca Zimmerman endured various forms of abuse at the hands of her boyfriend then husband for nine years. One of the least appreciated and understood forms of domestic violence is financial abuse. Jonathan, her abuser, is a senior manager in Denver at one of the top four global accounting firms. A numbers expert, he used his expertise in managing finances to control and abuse Rebecca. Reprimanded for buying a $20 bottle of wine when she could have bought one for $10; unable to work outside the home by refusing to pay for childcare; hacking into financial accounts even after they were divorced - Jonathan controlled her life through money, as well as emotional and physical violence.
It took Rebecca 15 attempts at police contact over a period of three months before her by-then-ex-husband was arrested and charged with a crime. He plead guilty to various charges of domestic violence. A deferred sentence and sealed case file allows him to maintain a public façade as a nice, respectable, professional numbers guy.
Listen to and learn from Rebecca yet another form of domestic / intimate partner violence. Pay attention to red flags of financial and electronic control to keep yourself and others safe.
Rebecca lives in Denver with her two daughters. She has made ending Intimate Partner Violence her life’s work, and begins a doctoral program at University of Denver in fall 2020.
Resources that Rebecca wants to share with you:
- Violence Free Colorado: https://www.violencefreecolorado.org/
- Seeking Safety by Lisa Najavits: https://books.google.com/books?id=BGwQDgAAQBAJ&lpg=PR1&ots=WtG8R5w-Lp&dq=seeking%20safety%20trauma%20informed%20care&lr&pg=PP1#v=onepage&q&f=false
- We Are Seeds Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WeAreSeedsSurvivors
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Survivors of domestic violence are great at running calculations. Their minds are a series of “if, then” statements attempting to live in peace; to avoid pain; to stay alive. Many survivors go so far as to try to perfect themselves, thinking the power and control to stop the pain inflicted by their abusers lies with them. Once again, we see a deeply empathetic person preyed on and that empathy turned against her by an abuser.
Rebecca Zimmerman endured various forms of abuse at the hands of her boyfriend then husband for nine years. One of the least appreciated and understood forms of domestic violence is financial abuse. Jonathan, her abuser, is a senior manager in Denver at one of the top four global accounting firms. A numbers expert, he used his expertise in managing finances to control and abuse Rebecca. Reprimanded for buying a $20 bottle of wine when she could have bought one for $10; unable to work outside the home by refusing to pay for childcare; hacking into financial accounts even after they were divorced - Jonathan controlled her life through money, as well as emotional and physical violence.
It took Rebecca 15 attempts at police contact over a period of three months before her by-then-ex-husband was arrested and charged with a crime. He plead guilty to various charges of domestic violence. A deferred sentence and sealed case file allows him to maintain a public façade as a nice, respectable, professional numbers guy.
Listen to and learn from Rebecca yet another form of domestic / intimate partner violence. Pay attention to red flags of financial and electronic control to keep yourself and others safe.
Rebecca lives in Denver with her two daughters. She has made ending Intimate Partner Violence her life’s work, and begins a doctoral program at University of Denver in fall 2020.
Resources that Rebecca wants to share with you:
- Violence Free Colorado: https://www.violencefreecolorado.org/
- Seeking Safety by Lisa Najavits: https://books.google.com/books?id=BGwQDgAAQBAJ&lpg=PR1&ots=WtG8R5w-Lp&dq=seeking%20safety%20trauma%20informed%20care&lr&pg=PP1#v=onepage&q&f=false
- We Are Seeds Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WeAreSeedsSurvivors
Rebecca Zimmerman endured various forms of abuse at the hands of her boyfriend then husband for nine years. One of the least appreciated and understood forms of domestic violence is financial abuse. Jonathan, her abuser, is a senior manager in Denver at one of the top four global accounting firms. A numbers expert, he used his expertise in managing finances to control and abuse Rebecca. Reprimanded for buying a $20 bottle of wine when she could have bought one for $10; unable to work outside the home by refusing to pay for childcare; hacking into financial accounts even after they were divorced - Jonathan controlled her life through money, as well as emotional and physical violence.
It took Rebecca 15 attempts at police contact over a period of three months before her by-then-ex-husband was arrested and charged with a crime. He plead guilty to various charges of domestic violence. A deferred sentence and sealed case file allows him to maintain a public façade as a nice, respectable, professional numbers guy.
Listen to and learn from Rebecca yet another form of domestic / intimate partner violence. Pay attention to red flags of financial and electronic control to keep yourself and others safe.
Rebecca lives in Denver with her two daughters. She has made ending Intimate Partner Violence her life’s work, and begins a doctoral program at University of Denver in fall 2020.
Resources that Rebecca wants to share with you:
- Violence Free Colorado: https://www.violencefreecolorado.org/
- Seeking Safety by Lisa Najavits: https://books.google.com/books?id=BGwQDgAAQBAJ&lpg=PR1&ots=WtG8R5w-Lp&dq=seeking%20safety%20trauma%20informed%20care&lr&pg=PP1#v=onepage&q&f=false
- We Are Seeds Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WeAreSeedsSurvivors