Life is not always plain sailing. Sometimes you are faced with setbacks that you just don’t expect. Sometimes you work so hard for something and it just doesn’t play out how you expect it to. These things happen and while they are not ideal they need to be dealt with. How you deal with them needs to be aligned to who you are and what you want to achieve. Too often we abdicate these decisions to others, we spend so much time listening to others that we don’t give ourselves the time and space to ask ourselves the key questions that need asking and then the time and space to truly answer them.
In this podcast TetraKey co-founder, Mark Hopkins, shares a setback that he faced at the Hockey World Cup and the way that he is going to overcome these setbacks. In a world where our inbox is full of so called experts giving their advice and influencers sharing their life story, who do we listen to, who do we follow.
There is really only one person that we should follow and that is you. You are the only person who gets to live and die by the decisions that you make. Yes you can take advice from others but give yourself the time and space to truly think. Not superficially think but really think. Take yourself out of the ‘public’ domain. Be clear on the questions you need to ask and then the time and space to answer.
Remember every situation is unique. Every person deals and reacts to situations in a different manner. While there maybe examples of other people dealing with what you are dealing with your situation has never happened. The people impacted by the situation is unique therefore the possible solutions are you unique. You need to identify possible solutions and then play out the scenarios to get to the desired result.
Mark shares a specific example of a performance that didn’t go exactly to plan and makes you revisit a long preparation phase. But with a chance to rectify it in 6 days time how do you plan the next few days. Where do you put your emphasis?\
We are all faced with situations and frustrations? How we deal with them will influence the next few phase of your life. If you have faced a setback and not sure where to turn Mark’s story might give you the clarity that you need.