As an addict, you think in terms of ‘I’ and ‘me’- also known as ‘king baby.’

You bargain in your addiction; ‘if I had this, then I could have done that’; you don’t see in the terms of accountability or admitting to your addiction. Blame everyone else. It takes time in the world of admitting.

To be powerless.

You have to do a lot of grieving in the recovery process; accepting to be powerless is similar to taking that step off the cliff; it’s a reality slap.

When you are powerless, you are accepting a painful reality. Shock, denial, bargaining, sadness.

Then comes the light- acceptance. You start to depend on others. You start to trust, heal and build your support network. Accepting that you cannot beat this thing by yourself. You put in the work; you make the choices.

When you can really accept you are powerless, you can win.

Doug Weiss, Ph.D., is a nationally known author, speaker and licensed psychologist. He is the executive director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado, and the author of several books including, Partner Betrayal Trauma ™.

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