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What happens when you leave an unhealthy or abusive relationship, but your body still feels like you're in danger?
In this powerful conversation, Virginia McConnell sits down with Jessy Pearson Cheney, an Emotion Code practitioner who helps women rebuild trust in their bodies after relationships that taught them to ignore their own intuition.
Jessy shares her personal journey through trauma and domestic violence, and explains why healing isn't always about understanding everything intellectually. Sometimes, the body needs to be part of the healing process too.
Together, Virginia and Jessy explore how trauma can affect the nervous system, disconnect us from our intuition, and keep us repeating relationship patterns—even when our minds know better. They discuss self-trust, fight-or-flight responses, emotional patterns, movement, and practical ways to reconnect with your body and begin feeling safe again.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why leaving an unhealthy relationship doesn't automatically erase the patterns it created
How trauma can disconnect you from your body and intuition
Why you may know someone isn't safe logically but still feel drawn to them emotionally
How rebuilding a relationship with your body can help restore self-trust
The role of movement in releasing stress and pent-up emotions
How body-based approaches can complement therapy and other forms of healing
Simple ways to begin listening to what your body is telling you
If you've ever questioned your intuition, struggled to trust yourself after a difficult relationship, or wondered why your body still reacts even when you're finally safe, this conversation is for you.
Listen in and discover what it can look like to stop overriding yourself—and start trusting yourself again.
About Jessy Pearson-Cheney
Emotion Code Practitioner
Jessy works with women rebuilding trust in their own body after a relationship that taught them not to.
Having experienced domestic violence herself, she brings more than theory to this work; she’s walked through it and found her way out.
What she sees, again and again, is that leaving the relationship isn’t where the pattern ends. The body often keeps replaying old wiring long after the danger is gone, staying too long, missing red flags, feeling drawn to familiar dynamics that don’t actually feel safe, even when the mind knows better.
Jessy gets to the root of where that wiring started and helps clear it directly, so safety isn’t just something a woman knows intellectually, it’s something her body finally believes.
Women who work with her leave feeling safer in their own skin, more able to trust their own read on people and situations, and less pulled back toward the same pattern again.
Ways to contact;
[email protected]
All socials: @jessypearsoncheney
Text: 765-436-0985
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