EP3: In this episode of Gutter Wisdom, Priestess Francesca and Brittany Wittig continue the Safety Briefing series by naming the red flags that most people miss — not because they’re naïve, but because these dynamics are engineered to feel affirming, intimate, and special.

This conversation examines how power closes relationally, long before it ever becomes overtly abusive. From leaders taking credit for spiritual experiences, to human-controlled “initiations,” to the subtle construction of dependency through endless containers — this episode breaks down how cult dynamics and spiritual exploitation actually form.

And once you see the mechanics, you can’t unsee it.

• Why the most dangerous red flags don’t feel dangerous
• How leaders subtly take credit for your spiritual experiences
• The litmus test for whether a guide is giving you your power back
• Pride vs divine pride in spiritual leadership
• The “hairline fracture” that precedes major abuse of power
• Real-world case studies: John of God, OneTaste, and cult dynamics
• Why controlled initiations are a major warning sign
• How retreats and healing spaces get mistaken for “the initiation”
• Why leaders should want you to graduate — not stay forever
• The danger of signal-boosting pearls without examining the container

01:10 — The Red Flags People Miss
Affirmation, specialness, and relational seduction

02:05 — Taking Credit for Spiritual Experiences
The pride trap most leaders fall into

03:55 — The Litmus Test for Power Transfer
Do the gifts remain when the guide leaves?

04:35 — Pride vs Divine Pride
What leaders get to take credit for — and what they don’t

06:55 — Case Study: John of God
From humility to God complex to abuse

08:50 — The Hairline Fracture
How small misalignments compound into massive harm

09:55 — Controlled Initiations
Why human-managed enlightenment is a red flag

11:45 — Retreats Aren’t the Initiation
Why life delivers the real initiations

13:55 — Kink, Sexuality & False Prescriptions
Why desire initiates — not the practitioner

15:50 — Case Study: OneTaste
Sexual initiation, power, and institutional harm

18:50 — Signal Boosting Without Discernment
Why resonance alone is not enough

21:15 — The Antidote
Leaders who want you to graduate

This episode builds directly on Episode 2, moving from why people are vulnerable to spiritual authority into how exploitation quietly takes shape.

If EP2 helped you understand the conditions, EP3 helps you recognize the pattern while you’re inside it.

As you listen, notice:

• Whether power is being handed back or subtly retained
• Whether the container points you toward life or back toward itself
• Whether there’s always “one more level” you need to access

Before continuing this series, check your own system.

The Engineering Hotness Quiz helps you assess how you respond to authority, where discernment holds (and where it collapses), and whether your internal alarm system is online. 

Take the quiz here: 👉 PriestessFrancesca.com/Quiz

Brittany Wittig is a trusted colleague and collaborator of Priestess Francesca, known for her grounded approach to leadership, ethics, and trauma-informed practice in spiritual and relational spaces.