Some relationship patterns don’t show up loudly — they show up slowly. In this message, we walk through the story of Ahab and Jezebel to uncover two dangerous dynamics that quietly destroy relationships: a passive spirit and a controlling spirit. Learn how ignoring red flags leads to repeated patterns, why control and passivity are symptoms of misplaced worship, and how putting God back at the center brings healing and transformation. Whether you’re dating, married, rebuilding, or simply wanting to grow, this message is an invitation to recognize what’s been shaping your relationships and choose surrender over self-rule.