​Let’s look at what the Bible does—and doesn’t—say about submitting. Ephesians 5:21 says, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” The broader context leading up to this verse builds a strong case for true, Christ-like humility and for authentic, grace-filled relationships of trust. So, I want to clear up several misconceptions about submission.

First, submission isn’t possible unless someone rejects the American ideal of rugged individualism. Otherwise, we’ll know nothing of submitting to others’ strengths, and pay a dear price.

Second, Scripture doesn’t give us the authority to command others to submit to us. That would be as ludicrous as commanding someone to love or respect us. Submission must be earned. It builds upon the positive aspects of true humility and grace-filled trust. Only when those two things are in place is healthy, Christ-like submission even possible.

Third, submission doesn’t mean taking orders. Instead, it means being willing to yield or defer to the strengths of others. This is true not only in marriage, but also in every other major relationship of life, including our relationship with God.

Together, let’s reject the misconceptions about submission, and embrace what the Bible actually teaches.

This is Luis Palau.