Reality Hour #samsylk

Dear Sam,

I recently went through a bad break up. We were together 4 years. It ended so badly I ended up moving back to my home state. Before I moved back to my hometown, I had left the home we were staying and moved about 3 hours from where we lived together. I stayed there for a about three months before I moved back to my hometown. While I was still in the same state as my ex, I could not get in contact with him, he blocked my number than changed his number. I was so broken he was my best friend. Once I got back to my hometown, I wasn’t there two full days when I started to receive blocked calls on my phone. No messages just blocked calls. I downloaded an app that uncovers blocked calls. I see the area code and I know it’s him, so the next time the phone rings blocked, I answer, it’s him. The first few calls were just him showing concern for my dad. ( my dad was recently diagnosed with cancer) By the end of the week, I was asking why did our relationship have to come to an end the way it did. He dodged the questions. Would change the subject asking questions about what’s going on here and what I am doing here, blah blah. Within two weeks, we were back talking like best friends. All day and night, falling asleep on the phone. I’d hang up he’d call back and be like… “goodnight, I miss you, this shit is lonely”. Now that I’ve been here 3 months. He’s trying to make arrangements to come visit and wanting me to make arrangements to come to him on weekends. I haven’t agreed to go to him but I am not against him coming to see me. YES, I do want my relationship back. He keeps saying that we never know what will happen in the future. My adult daughters are telling me to move on “I dont want to.” I have not asked him what he wanted to do, I am really afraid to hear, no. I am confused though. Like why? Why did it take me to leave the state for him to reach out? And now that I’m gone… why act like we are still together, just in two different states. He drives trucks for a living so we are literally on the phone from the time we wake up till we go to sleep. I feel like he is trying to stop me from seeing anyone here. And when I don’t answer the phone he blows it up, leaves voicemail saying things like.. I know you living your best life without me, someone must have you bent over right now. HUH? You didn’t want to be with me though, because your sisters and aunts didn’t like me and my mouth was too much for him. (He doesn’t like to be held accountable) Yesterday, I just didn’t answer the phone, at all, all day. I finally answered at 2am. The first thing he said was… I was so worried about you? Everything alright? How’s your dad? He ok right? I said everything is good here. He replies.. ok, well have a good night I’ll talk to you later. I’m just so confused. We had an argument a week ago. He said something like, we ain’t together, you there and I’m here. So I said just stop calling me. I don’t need to tak to you I need to get over you. He calls every single day all day every day. What does he want? Should I just ask if he wants me to move back? Or just leave things the way they are?