Relationship Alive!

By Neil Sattin

Society & Culture Education

What's Relationship Alive! about?

Neil Sattin interviews John Gottman, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Diana Richardson, Terry Real, and Wendy Maltz in his quest to dig deep into all the factors that keep a Relationship Alive and Thriving! Each week Neil brings you an in-depth interview with a relationship expert. Neil is an author and relationship coach who is enthusiastic and passionate about relationships and the nuts and bolts of what makes them last. Listen each week for a special giveaway, and please subscribe so that you don't miss a single opportunity! You can find out more about Neil Sattin and the Relationship Alive podcast at http://www.neilsattin.com

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245: How to Not Die Alone -...

01.28.2021

Modern dating can be so challenging. Simply finding good people is challenging. Knowing how to take a relationship to the next level, when to commit, or when to get out of a relationship so that you can find something better ...

Relationship Alive! episodes:

01.28.2021 245: How to Not Die Alone - Using Science to Crack the Code of Modern Dating - with Logan Ury Modern dating can be so challenging. Simply finding good people is challenging. Knowing how to take a relationship to the next level, when to commit, or when to get out of a relationship so that you can find something better ...
12.20.2020 244: A Practical Approach for Big Changes When you want to shift something in your life, the scale of the change can seem daunting. So how do you get from point A to point B (or...point Z) in a way that's actually doable - and sustainable? It ...
12.13.2020 243: Ultimatums - The Good and The Bad Are ultimatums ever a good idea? If so - when? If not, what can you do instead? What should you do if you receive an ultimatum from your partner? And how do you undo the damage that an ultimatum can ...
11.21.2020 242: Using Creativity for Emotional Alchemy - plus a song! When emotions are stuck within you - how can you use your creativity to get things moving? Sometimes the muse within you is a quiet whisper - other times screaming for your attention. Today we'll talk about how to find ...
11.11.2020 241: Breaking Up and Moving On - What's Normal? What's the "Right" Way? When it comes to breaking up, is there a right way to do it? How long should it take for you to get over your ex? How do you know when it's time to see someone new? How do you ...
10.24.2020 240: When You're in Conflict - How to Find Optimal Outcomes - with Jennifer Goldman-Wetzler When you’re stuck in conflict, how do you step outside of the situation enough to identify ways to break the patterns that are keeping you stuck? Especially in ongoing conflict, just doing more of the same isn’t going to change ...
10.16.2020 239: How to Avoid the Negative Bypass Do you ever feel like you should have gotten over something challenging - that you’ve grown, and learned from the experience, but that on some level it still haunts you? Or do you feel inner conflict around decisions that seem ...
09.26.2020 238: Unmotivated Partners - What To Do? - with Pete Pearson When your partner is unmotivated to change and has resorted to stonewalling - or blaming everything on you - what can you do? If you’re a therapist working with a couple in this situation, you’ll learn some valuable ways to ...
09.19.2020 237: Overcoming Procrastination - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin Do you ever procrastinate? If you’re looking for a way to finally stop putting things off and get them done, then today’s episode is for you. David Burns has returned for a session to help me with my own procrastination. ...
09.10.2020 236: When Talking about How You Feel Goes Horribly Wrong How do you talk about your feelings - without your partner getting reactive and defensive? There are some common mistakes that we make when talking about our feelings that can lead to it going horribly wrong. In today’s episode, we’ll ...
08.29.2020 235: Microaggressions in Life and Love with Kevin Nadal Are you undermining your connection with your partner, or others, with microaggressions? While the “little things” can be the building blocks of something amazing - they can also undermine the very fabric of how you relate with another person, perpetuating ...
08.15.2020 234: The Anti-Relationship Episode After 233 episodes about how to have an amazing relationship, it’s time to ask the obvious question: Why? Let’s turn things on their head for a moment. Perhaps getting into a relationship is actually a bad idea! This week, I ...
08.06.2020 233: What Makes a Marriage Last - with Marlo Thomas and Phil Donahue Let’s put the theory aside for a minute. When it comes to having a successful, long-lasting relationship, what has actually worked for couples whose relationships have stood the test of time? In order to celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary, Marlo ...
07.25.2020 232: Solving the Acceptance Paradox - with Neil Sattin What if accepting your partner traps you in a relationship that isn’t healthy? What’s the balance between accepting your relationship as it is - and wanting to shift things without trying to turn your partner into someone different than who ...
07.18.2020 231: How to Make Better Decisions in Your Relationships (and Avoid Common Pitfalls) - with Logan Ury The quality of your life is directly related to the quality of the decisions that you make. So, when it comes to love - is there a way to make better choices to improve your chances of a long-lasting, thriving ...
07.11.2020 230: How to Win Any Argument In today's world, it's challenging to avoid conflicts - whether with our intimate partners, or simply with people at the grocery store or on social media. How do you take control of any fight so that you can create the ...
06.29.2020 229: Sexting for Fun and Connection Sexting - what is it? How do you do it? Why would you want to do it? And...most importantly...how do you ensure it goes well - and how do you keep it from going horribly wrong? Whether you have been ...
06.19.2020 228: Facing Overwhelm - Session with David Burns and Neil Sattin If you’ve got big feelings going on - overwhelm, anxiety, depression, sadness, anger - how can you discover the valuable messages they contain, and then transform them rapidly into feeling good - or even great? In today’s episode, you’ll get ...
06.06.2020 227: Racism, Racial Equity, and Relationships - with Neil Sattin How do we confront our blind spots and tackle the ways that racism and privilege affect our relationships, our lives, our society? And...our podcasts? This week's episode is not meant to be a complete answer to those questions - just ...
05.29.2020 226: Feeling Good - What Matters and What Doesn't - with David Burns What shifts anxiety, depression, overwhelm, or simply feeling “down” - into feeling good, or even great? What are the hidden obstacles that get in the way? With more than 40 years of experience, Dr. David Burns, author of Feeling Good, ...
05.15.2020 225: Overcoming Shame and Getting Real about Relationships One of the biggest blocks to lasting intimacy is shame. Shame keeps us from being honest with ourselves, and our partners. And from truly owning what's real for us - what we actually want. In today's episode we're going to ...
04.25.2020 224: What Romance Novels Teach Us about Real-Life Love and Desire - with Mara Wells Life doesn’t always lead to Happily Ever After (or Happily For Now) - like a romance novel. However, romance novels tap into something deep in our heart and psyche - keeping us turning the pages to see just how it’s ...
04.10.2020 223: How to Boost Your Oxytocin for a Sense of Wellbeing - Even If You're Solo - with Jessica Zager Sometimes you just need simple strategies to give yourself a boost. In today’s episode, we’re going to cover ways that you can increase your sense of wellbeing and connectedness - by harnessing your own biochemistry to foster oxytocin production. This ...
03.20.2020 222: Hints to Improve Digital Intimacy and Stay Sane (and Connected) during a Lockdown Sometimes all it takes is a simple adjustment to create a much deeper connection with another person. Today I'll offer you some obvious-but-not-so-obvious ways to foster intimacy - whether you're cooped up with another, or connecting digitally. In this episode ...
03.14.2020 221: Love in the Time of Coronavirus - COVID19 and Your Relationships How is coronavirus (COVID-19) impacting you? What are the implications of "social distancing" on your relationship - especially if you're cooped up together for weeks at a time? Or if you're single, how can you still enjoy dating while staying ...
03.05.2020 220: Reclaiming (and Enjoying) Your Sexual Self - Taking Sexy Back with Alexandra Solomon What turns you on, and what turns you off? How do you get past the messages about sex handed to you by others - to discover your own personal sexuality? How do you own your deepest desires - and communicate ...
02.22.2020 219: Your Questions Answered - More on Judgment and Grieving It can be easy to avoid being judgmental with people that aren't close to you, but what do you do when you feel yourself getting critical or testing the people with whom you're the most vulnerable? How do you shift ...
02.14.2020 218: Sacred Instructions - Indigenous Wisdom for Your Relationship - with Sherri Mitchell How do we heal ourselves, our relationships, and the world we live in - all at once? How has our society created rifts within us (and between us) that get in the way of fulfilling relationships? With indigenous wisdom that ...
02.07.2020 217: How to Heal after a Breakup How do you heal after a breakup or divorce? Whether you’re going through a breakup now, have been through a breakup and still have some cleanup work to do, or...well...maybe you will be going through a breakup at some point ...
01.24.2020 216: Steering Clear of Judging Yourself and Others Do you judge others or yourself harshly? How do you get past the judgment to a place where you can see a situation clearly, set appropriate boundaries, and change things for the better? In this week's episode, we're going to ...
01.16.2020 215: Your Erotic Blueprint - The Work of Jaiya - with Ian Ferguson What turns you on - and what turns you off? Once you know your erotic blueprint type, it’s so much easier to have the kind of intimacy that you most deeply desire. And when you hit a snag, it could ...
12.21.2019 214: Do Breakups Have To Be Messy? While some kind of issue is going to be at the heart of every breakup, how do you get past the issues and create a breakup that's kind, generous, and respectful? How do you find compassion and understanding within the ...
12.13.2019 213: How to Handle an Aching Heart - with Guy Finley What do you do when you're suffering? How do you escape patterns of blaming in your relationship, and find the place within you that can turn painful moments into transformation? And how do you know when you've experienced too much ...
12.07.2019 212: Something Deeply Personal - with Neil Sattin For quite awhile now I've been mentioning that there have been some challenges and changes going on in my life. This week, I'm going to share some of that with you. I've waited awhile for the timing to be right, ...
11.23.2019 211: Sometimes You Just Have to Stop - with Neil Sattin With all the focus on ways to improve your relationship, growth and change can become something of an obsession. However, sometimes all the effort can create even more problems. So...it's helpful to know when it's time to just...stop. There are ...
11.15.2019 210: How to Escape the Drama Triangle - with Stephen Karpman Ever feel like there’s a little too much drama in your life? Well, if that’s the case, then you probably have been caught in the Drama Triangle. If you’ve never heard of the Drama Triangle then be prepared - you’re ...
11.08.2019 209: How to Communicate about Your Emotions - with Neil Sattin How do you communicate about your feelings in the most effective way possible? While we're at it, how do you even feel your feelings so that they can move through you - instead of getting stuck or repressed? And, as ...
10.26.2019 208: Sex and Porn Addiction - Myths and Reality - with Paula Hall How do you know if you, or someone you love, is addicted to sex, or porn? What can you do about it? And along with healing patterns of addiction, what is most helpful for the partners of people with addiction? ...
10.19.2019 207: Getting Truthful about the Ways You Hold Back - with Neil Sattin Are you being true to who you are? What are the ways that you're holding back in your relationship, or compromising yourself? Even if you're single, there might be ways that you're not quite being fully yourself! Of course, sometimes ...
10.09.2019 206: How to Benefit from Conflict - with Viola Neufeld Conflict is often viewed as a bad thing. It’s uncomfortable. It makes us feel bad, and often makes others feel bad too. What if you’re missing out on an opportunity? This is the moment where something new can form within ...
09.14.2019 205: [Updated] Important Self-Care Basics with Neil Sattin It’s easy to talk about “Self Care” - to pay lip service to it - but what does it really mean to take care of yourself? In today’s episode, we’re going to get back to basics to ensure that you’re ...
09.05.2019 204: Communication that Grows Your Relationship - with Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson There are ways to communicate that keep you stuck, or that make things worse - and there are ways to communicate that foster the healthy development of your relationship. So how do you avoid the pitfalls, and reconnect with each ...
08.29.2019 203: How to Stop Controlling Each Other (and Why) - with Neil Sattin In what ways are you being controlled by your partner? In what ways are you controlling them? How does it help you? And how does it hurt you? In today’s episode, we’re going to dive deep on this issue of ...
08.20.2019 202: Grounded Spirituality for Deeper Presence and Connection - with Jeff Brown Is it possible to be a spiritual being in a human body? Transcendent, yet grounded? Why do so many “spiritual leaders” tell us to leave our feelings behind? Can you be truly connected to another person - including on the ...
08.09.2019 201: Can People Really Change? - with Neil Sattin Can people really change? And how do you know if someone will change? It's a good question, especially if you're dealing with some significant challenges in your relationship. You might be wondering about your partner - or you might be ...
07.24.2019 200: Pleasure Activism - Change that Nourishes You - with adrienne maree brown When looking to change things in your world, how do you let pleasure be the force that guides you? How do you fulfill desire while you fight for change? How do you take care of yourself while you transform? Today ...
07.18.2019 199: What To Do When Things Get Challenging When things get challenging in your relationship, what's the best way to ensure that you and your partner can make it through? How do you avoid the losing strategies that come naturally in a moment of crisis - and, instead, ...
07.10.2019 198: Healing Your Earliest Attachment Wounds - with Peter Levine How would you know if there were experiences from the earliest moments of your life affecting you here and now? And if you are indeed being impacted by the distant past - what can you do to heal those early ...
07.03.2019 197: Sexy Consent - Deeper Intimacy with Neil Sattin Do you want one surefire way to know if the way you're interacting with your partner is something that they're into? Get their consent! Is there a place for getting consent even in a long-term relationship where you're pretty sure ...
06.25.2019 196: Harnessing the Transformative Power of Your Core Emotions - The Change Triangle with Hilary Jacobs Hendel Beneath anxiety, depression, guilt, and shame, are core emotions that are hardwired into our circuitry. When you’re able to tap into the core emotions - and move through them - you’ll feel a new sense of freedom and empowerment. Our ...

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