Before you can change your thoughts, behaviors, and actions, you’ll need to learn to view all of your relationships -- past and present, personal and professional -- as mirrors of who you are, who you once were, and who you wish to be.

By taking the time to stop and reflect on the choices you’ve made, you’ll see how much you already know and what you still need to learn.

As you reflect on your relationships, pay close attention to any emerging patterns. If you realize that you keep getting involved in the same type of dead-end relationships, know that there are important karmic lessons that you haven’t learned, and

that the universe keeps giving you another chance to learn them.

For instance, if you notice that you keep getting involved with people who can’t commit to a relationship, know that you secretly fear commitment or you wouldn’t keep choosing the same kind of partner over and over again.

Another example would be if you keep picking partners who are abusive to you. What would thispattern of behavior be trying to reveal to you? Perhaps you’re reliving your parents’ marriage, or you have self-esteem issues, or you have a subconscious need to punish or disempower yourself.