Relationships aren’t always easy. We understand that. What we don’t understand is the “It’s Complicated” relationship status. What exactly does that mean?

“It’s complicated” means sort of. There is some kind of relationship there, but it is not a fully committed relationship.

God never mean for us to have complicated, sort of committed relationships. He meant for us to be in a one flesh marriage covenant.

The world is filled with many relationship complications, Friends with benefits, divorce, blended families are just of the complications out there.

Thankfully, God’s love for us has never been complicated. He loves us with a fully committed love. This love should be the example for all our relationships.

Relationship Status 3 – It’s Complicated: Be Fully Committed

Sermon notes by Pastor Chris Fluitt

Redemption Church Plano Tx

BUMPER -Relationship Status 3

 

Welcome back to Redemption Church. We are a mighty Church in Plano Tx. My name is Chris Fluitt. I am excited to be sharing the Word of God with you today.

Relationship Status

We are in the final week of our Relationship Status sermon series. We talked about the Single Status and the Married Status. If you missed either of these weeks, I want to encourage you to check it out at redemption-church.com.

Today I want to talk to you about the “It’s Complicated” relationship status.

It’s Complicated

The “It’s Complicated” status has become the norm. But let’s make sure we understand  what the “It’s complicated” status means.

It’s complicated means “sort of.”  It means you are “WITH” someone… you are seeing each other, you are sexually intimate with each other, yet you are not with them in a FULLY COMMITTED FASHION.

Whereas a marriage covenant is two people fully committing promises towards each other… it’s complicated means sort of…

Then there is this phrase that you have probably heard before.

Friends with benefits

This is when people have a friendship relationship and they throw in the added “benefit” of sexual intimacy. They technically call themselves “SINGLE” as to keep their options open. They claim to not be dating. Their only commitment is as friends and to enjoy physical pleasure.

This is more common than you may understand.  There are many problems with this relationship.

 

Someone accidentally commits..

They start their relationship with ground rules. WE DON’T WANT TO DATE. We don’t want romantic entaglements… We only  think it would be fun to have sex. Sex is their only commitment in the beginning.

Now I am about to come at this from a Biblical point of view, but let me first come at this from how the world views this relationships. The world will tell you that the “friends with benefits” relationship does not work. Of course the Bible tells you not to do this… but so will your bro.

They will tell you it is all working to plan until someone falls in love and gets their heart broken when the other doesn’t want a relationship.

You cannot have a relationship built upon NON-COMMITMENT. Someone will accidentally commit. You cannot share intimacy and someone not accidentally commit. Sharing intimacy changes the relationship.

The IT’S COMPLICATED / FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS / IT’S ALL ABOUT THE SEX relationships will never work out. AND HERE IS WHY!