In this week’s episode, I am joined by Dr. Stan Tatkin! Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy®. He is also an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine.

In 2010 he and his wife, Tracey created the PACT Institute, to train mental health professionals to think and work through a psychobiological lens in their clinical practice.

Tatkin’s work, based on a social-emotional capacity model, focuses on what partners can and cannot do to mitigate threat reactions during stressful interactive sequences.

Dr. Tatkin is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and his latest title, In Each Other’s Care.

He has just released an updated version of Wired for Love this June which can be found on Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Wired-Love-Understanding-Attachment- Relationship/dp/1648482961/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Key Points

• Impact of technology on relationships

• Embracing life’s imperfections together

• The power of face-to-face communication

• Secure functioning in modern partnerships

• Continuous courtship keeps love alive

• Rekindle romance with 'ROM weekends'

Best Quotes

01:34 - 01:41

• "All people are difficult. All people are disappointing. All people are a pain in the butt. And that's no, no exceptions."

03:17 - 03:28

• "The amygdala is a, is a fear alarm center. And so it's being triggered more frequently because that person at the side brain kind of is wary."

05:42 - 05:48

• "We actually store each other's faces in our heads for weeks and months without ever looking at them." 05:48 - 06:00

• "This is the law of energy conservation. We do the least amount necessary. And if we think we know our spouse, then we go about thinking that we're wrong because we're not really paying attention."

30:13 - 30:21

• "It doesn't matter what your partner's going through, you are, that's your wing person. You are responsible to that person."

For more about Dr. Stan Tatkin visit: www.thepactinstitute.com