26: RELATIONSHIPS: Getting The Love You Want

Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are internationally-respected couple's therapists, educators, speakers, and New York Times bestselling authors. Together, they have written over 10 books with more than 4 million copies sold, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. In addition Harville has appeared on Oprah 17 times! Anyone who knows me knows I’m obsessed with Oprah so I’m extremely envious of this. Harville and Helen co-created Imago Relationship Therapy which is a form of relationship and couples therapy that focuses on relational counseling to transform any conflict between couples into opportunities for healing and growth. They are the co-founders of Imago Relationships International, which is a non-profit organization that has trained over 2,000 therapists and educators in 51 countries around the world. So these guys know their stuff. However, marriage—even for marriage experts—isn’t always easy. Just like any other couple, Harville and Helen experienced a power struggle where they attempted to change, coerce, and threaten each other to be “more like me.” Sound familiar to anybody?   20 years ago, after a decade of marriage, they found themselves teetering on the brink of divorce. Ironically, it was their own teachings that made the biggest difference in turning their relationship around. And they now enjoy a true partnership that has lasted over 30 years and are happier than ever. So in today’s episode they share not only their expertise through working with other couples but also from their own personal journey. In today’s episode we discuss: Why we choose our partners (this one is fascinating!) How our childhood effects our relationship The one thing they did that completely transformed their own relationship Why we’re such bad listeners How to re-romanticize your relationship And much much more. To learn more about the work Helen and Harville are doing visit https://harvilleandhelen.com BOOK: Getting The Love You Want www.schoolyoursoupodcast.com