Proactivity is responding to situations according to the values and principles you hold, not just reacting according to the emotion that gets stirred. In relationships that kind of mindfulness allows us to use the 10% in ways that make a difference for the 90% that may not have been what we wanted. Watch or listen to this 4th of our 6 weeks on Relationships That Work to learn what can make that 10% powerful instead of powerless.