Ever wondered why some people thrive in big, bubbly social circles while others guard their inner circle like it’s VIP only? This episode brings the debate (and laughs) as Sarah (high Woo), Bill (both Woo + Relator), and guest Anna Pressler (high Relator) unpack what it really means to connect—quickly, deeply, or both.

Whether you’re someone who thrives on new connections or prefers to go deep with a few, this episode helps you better understand your style of connection—and how to appreciate others who connect differently. Through hilarious stories, friendship moments, and real talk about trust, depth, and relational standards, you’ll walk away with insight into how to build (and keep) meaningful relationships at work and in life.

Main Takeaways

1. Woo builds connection through charisma and energy, while Relator goes deep through trust and consistency.
2. Relators aren’t closed off—they’re intentional and discerning in who they build deep relationships with.
3. High Woo often means fast connection—but without intention, it can struggle to sustain long-term bonds.
4. Relators may appear slow to warm, but once you’re in their circle, loyalty runs deep.
5. The best relationships often come from partnerships that balance both breadth and depth of connection.
6. Strengths like competition, achiever, and significance can influence how and why someone builds relationships.
7. Friendship, like teamwork, thrives when we learn to value each other’s styles instead of judging them.

Sound Bites

1. “If your strengths had a group chat, mine would be full of drama.”
2. “Woo comes in hot—Relator needs time and confetti puppy chow.”
3. “Just because I hug someone in a coffee shop doesn’t mean I know their name.”
4. “Relator gets the reputation of being exclusive—but we’re just intentional.”
5. “My Woo wanted friends; Anna’s Relator wanted peace and quiet.”
6. “Relators hold people to a higher standard—and that’s not a bad thing.”
7. “I collect relators… I’m drawn to people who feel ‘hard to get.’”
8. “Deep connection is a human need—we just get there in different ways.”
9. “Sometimes I feel itchy when my Woo friends start talking to everyone around us.”
10. “Woo is the glitter; Relator is the superglue.”
11. “I don’t want people to just like me—I want them to think I’m a good friend.”
12. “If you try to be everything, you’ll be mediocre at most things.”
13. “Our friendship worked because we had time together—and snacks.”
14. “I use my strengths differently at work—my competition and significance drive me to connect even when it’s not natural.”
15. “Relator doesn’t mean unfriendly—it means deliberate connection with depth and loyalty.”

Bill's Top 10 CliftonStrengths 

1) Individualization

2) Developer

3) Activator

4) Woo

5) Restorative

6) Empathy

7) Harmony

8) Connectedness

9) Relator

10) Learner

Sarah's Top 10 CliftonStrengths 

1) Positivity

2) Woo

3) Communication

4) Harmony

5) Activator

6) Developer

7) Input

8) Individualization

9) Responsibility

10) Arranger 

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