Men of Integrity

Repair and Healing After Infidelity, Realize, Repent, The Gottman Method, then Go Forward

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11-18-2022     S03:E008

Repair and Healing After Infidelity, Realize, Repent, The Gottman Method, then Go Forward

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      3. The very first thing you must do:

      1. Realize that pornography and masturbation is infidelity
        1. Realize that your spouse didn’t decide that
        2. God did:

          3. Matthew 5:28 KJV

          [28] But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

          1. Find an altar of repentance, remember Simon the sorcerer, he saw the gift of the Holy Ghost and wanted to buy it.

            2. Acts 8:21-22 KJV

            [21] Thou hast neither part nor lot in this matter: for thy heart is not right in the sight of God.

            [22] Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee.

            Acts 17:30 KJV

            [30] And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent:

            Spouse must go through 3 major stages: Drs John and Julie Gottman

            1. Atonement
            2. Attunement
            3. Attachment

              4. 5 Ways to Repair and Begin the Healing Process

              1. Acknowledge the underlying cause
                1. Most began because of emotional disconnect
                2. Relationships during childhood manifest in adulthood
                3. Commit to quit
                  1. Cut it off
                  2. Establish boundaries together
                  3. Honest discussions
                    1. Helps each partner understand
                    2. Communication is vital
                    3. Rebuilding trust and healing
                      1. Time
                      2. Joel 2:25 KJV

                        3. [25] And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.

                        1. Acknowledge the needs of your partner
                        2. Be vulnerable
                        3. Seek time and activity together
                        4. You have to be best friends again before you can be lovers
                        5. Seek marriage counseling
                          1. Not pastoral
                          2. Not individual counseling
                          3. Go to seminars and retreats
                          4. Pay for it

                            5. Psalms 100:3

                            [3] He made us, and we are His. We are His people, the sheep of His pasture.

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