There’s a trend called, “performance- based parenting.”  It’s actually fairly common in homes across the country.  But basing relationships on performance isn’t healthy!

Performance- based parenting means that your child believes your love is conditional.  If they do something wrong… you won’t love them anymore.  If they do something right …they you’re your favor.

Now, as a mom or dad, you know that isn’t true.  However… we can easily communicate that way if we’re not careful.  If we over-emphasize academic or educational pursuits… participation in sports or religious activities… it looks like we’re demanding perfection.

Is that you?  Are you focused solely on performance… and don’t tolerate mistakes?  If so, you need to change up your approach …and make sure you teen knows of your unconditional love.

 

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