Resilient Relationships

Plenty out there on relationships but little insights into the deeper truths about marriages and relationships that Drs Heim talk about in this episode as they discuss a recent insightful article written by psychologist Mark Travers. Along the way … Caroline talks about relationship fears in her students and Christian takes us on a journey to a tropical island to discover more of ourselves

Link to article:

https://www.forbes.com/sites/traversmark/2025/04/05/5-rare-marriage-lessons-no-one-talks-about---by-a-psychologist/

Do you pool your finances? What does this say about you as a couple? In this episode Drs Heim do a deep dive into couples’ finances by comparing a 2023 study on finance trends in young couples with older couples. Along the way … Christian talks about financial infidelity and Caroline shares some history.

Resilient Relationships book: https://a.co/d/c9WTIdo

Contemporary Family Therapy Article: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10591-023-09666-9

Forgiving. Not Easy. Especially when there has been a seemingly unforgivable incident. In this episode Drs Heim see what the scientific literature says about forgiveness in couples and then give a very practical 7 step process of how to forgive. Along the way…Caroline shares a very poignant story about a spouse that forgave an infidelity and Christian explains his own journey of learning to forgive.

Link to The 7 Steps to Forgiveness: https://amzn.asia/d/b47Q5y1

How important is it for your to have separate time? What if one wants to do everything together and the other doesn’t? In this episode Drs Heim look to the wisdom of how couples married 40+ years sorted through these thorny questions. Along the way…Christian shares the science behind attachment and Caroline talks about how universities are marginalising coupledom

How much do you listen to the emotions behind the words when your love partner is telling you something that’s important to them? In this episode, Drs Heim give you a roadmap for active listening and do some role plays to demonstrate active listening. Listening is a skill that can be learnt. Along the way … Caroline shares how she teaches listening to her Theatre students and Christian enjoys hammering in some nails.

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist.

Drs Heim asked young couples “if you could ask people married 40+ years a question, what would it be?” In this episode Drs Heim share the top 5 answers (why is the sex question only number 2?) and discuss the pressures in society on young couples that can sabotage them from reaching their long-term goals. Along the way … Christian explains about how the brain can expand in marriage and Caroline quotes some couple advice from Shakespeare.

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist.

In this episode, Drs Heim reveal the surprising results of their survey question that asked: Have you ever considered divorce? and why? or why not? They finish off with some tips on what to do when you are considering divorce. Along the way … Christian and Caroline share one of their favourite couple techniques “You and me against the world.”

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist

In new research on happiness not yet published, Drs Heim asked 1112 coupled individuals what were the key factors that contributed to their relationship happiness. In this episode, Christian talks about what happiness really is from a psychiatrist’s point of view, and then Caroline reveals what the top 6 factors were for happiness and unhappiness in long-term relationships from their study. Along the way…Christian talks about a conference he went to on happiness and Caroline surprises Christian with some of the results.

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist

Conflict is part of every long-term relationship: but is it healthy? In this episode Drs Heim talk about arguing and conflict resolution. What did the 1112 couples they interviewed and surveyed say about arguing and what is the latest evidence on conflict in relationships? They finish off by sharing 4 top tips for conflict resolution from the results of their survey. Along the way …. they have an argument, Christian talks about what goes on in the brain during conflict, and Caroline talks about how her students are learning the lost art of listening.

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist

Drs Heim asked 90 couples married 40+ years “Was there anything that threatened to tear your marriage apart?” 68% said yes. In this episode Drs Heim share the top 5 threats from these couples. Surprisingly, infidelity, is not number one. Along the way … Caroline shares some of the couple’s painful but courageous stories of overcoming these threats and Christian talks about the brain chemical that helps us to trust and just “chill” in our relationship to help overcome adversity.

Each episode Drs Heim look at the science behind relationship success, examine the latest relationship science and give practical application tips from Dr Heim's 20 years of clinical experience as a psychiatrist