In this episode, we sit down with Troy Snyder, MS, NCC, LPC, CCSAS, CPCS, a counselor who has been working in the sexual addiction field for over 25 years, to talk about what healing looks like beneath addiction.

So often, the focus in recovery becomes, “How do I stop the behavior?” But Troy invites us to ask a deeper question: What is happening in the heart? What pain is being avoided? What core wounds are still tender? What emotions were never named, processed, or brought into healthy community? And what is pornography falsely promising to fix?

We also talk about the depth of betrayal trauma and why the betrayed spouse’s pain cannot be minimized, rushed, or placed on a timeline. Troy gives language for how the unfaithful spouse can stay humble, own the impact, and begin to understand the grief and devastation betrayal creates.

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In this episode, we sit down with Jacob Valk, co-founder and co-executive director of Into the Light Ministries, for a powerful conversation about pornography, parenting, prevention, and God’s good design for sexuality.

Jacob shares his own story of growing up with a mom who talked to him early and openly about pornography and created a home where the topic wasn’t hidden in shame. By the grace of God, Jacob never became hooked on pornography, but he vulnerably shares how he struggled with masturbation, lust, and learning how to bring even the hidden parts of his sexuality into the light. 

We talk about why pornography is so destructive, why masturbation is often misunderstood or minimized, and how a deeper theology of God’s design for sex gives us more than just rules.

Jacob also shares the heart behind Into the Light Ministries and the free resources they’ve created for individuals, parents, churches, and families. From their documentary on pornography to their parenting masterclass and tech series, their mission is to equip the Church to face pornography with truth, clarity, courage, and hope.

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Into The Light

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In this episode, we sit down with Jeff and Jourdan for a vulnerable conversation about same-sex attraction, marriage, honesty, and what it looks like to keep choosing Jesus when the struggle doesn’t simply go away.

Jeff and Jourdan are worship leaders, pastors, podcast hosts, and the founders of Open Spaces. With over 25 years of ministry experience, they have spent their lives creating spaces where people can encounter God in honest and transformative ways. But behind the scenes, their own story was being shaped by deep pain, confusion, utter dependence on God, and tremendous courage.

Jeff shares about his lifelong experience with same-sex attraction, the secrecy he carried for years, and the moment he finally told Jourdan the truth. He admits that for a long time, he didn’t even think marriage was possible. Jourdan shares what it was like to hear his story, how Jesus guided her to stay, and how the Holy Spirit met her with the strength, clarity, and grace in the middle of so many unknowns.

This conversation is not a simple story with easy answers. It is a story about choosing Jesus in the middle of unanswered prayers, unwanted desires, shame, temptation, and confusion. 

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In this episode, we sit down with Scott McDowell, son of Sean McDowell and grandson of Josh McDowell, for a vulnerable and honest conversation about the hidden battle he and so many young men face with pornography.

Even though Scott came from a legacy of well-known Christian leaders who educated him about the dangers of pornography, he found himself in the trenches with a secret that he believed would bring shame on the family name if anyone found out. From the outside, he looked like the “good Christian guy.” But behind the scenes, he was believing the lies that so many people fall prey to: “I can quit whenever I want,” “It’s not really affecting me,” and “If it is damaging, it’s only hurting me.”

Eventually, God began to show him that pornography was doing more damage than he realized and was affecting his relationship with God, his confidence, his dating relationship, and so much more. We also talk about how the types of pornography are changing within a younger generation and what it actually looks like to walk in purity as a young man on a college campus.

Again, we’re reminded that the struggle with pornography thrives in secrecy, but healing begins when we bring it into the light.

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So many women reach out to us asking the same question: “How do I know if he’s struggling with pornography?” Sometimes it’s not obvious. It’s not always something you catch—sometimes it’s something you feel. A shift. A distance. A tension you can’t quite explain.

In this episode, we talk about the signs we’ve seen—not just in our own story, but in the hundreds of couples we’ve walked with. This isn’t about creating fear or jumping to conclusions. It’s about helping you pay attention to patterns, trust what you’re sensing, and have the courage to step into the conversation.

We cover things like secrecy with phones, emotional disconnection, changes in intimacy, defensiveness, and even subtle ways pornography can distort how we see ourselves and our spouse.

We also talk about what to do if you do have that gut feeling—how to approach the conversation in a way that leads to truth, not more hiding.

There is hope. Healing is possible. And bringing things into the light is always the first step. If this is something you’re walking through, you don’t have to do it alone.
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For so many of us, especially those raised in the church, we’ve been taught to fight, minimize, or suppress our desires. But what if that’s preventing our healing?

In this conversation, we sit down with Jay Stringer to talk about something that impacts every one of us—our desires. In his new book Desire, Jay introduces a different path—one rooted in curiosity instead of shame or control.

We talk about why our struggles aren’t random, how our stories shape our desires, and what it looks like to understand what’s happening beneath the surface instead of just trying to manage behavior. This conversation goes deep into family of origin, core beliefs, trauma, and how even the things we’re most ashamed of can actually point us toward healing. Our hope is that this episode helps you slow down, get curious, and begin to see your story—and your desires—in a completely new way.

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What do you do when you’ve prayed, believed… and nothing changes? When the healing doesn’t come, and the pain doesn’t go away? When God feels silent in the place you need Him most.

In this conversation, we sit down with Brenna Blain, a contemporary theologian, best-selling author, and teacher, to talk about the kind of suffering that doesn’t make sense—and the kind of faith that has to be rebuilt in the middle of it. Brenna vulnerably shares her story of abuse, depression, same-sex attraction, and wrestling with a God who didn’t show up the way she thought He would.

We talk about the tension so many of us carry but don’t always say out loud: How do you trust God when He doesn’t fix it? What does it look like to follow Jesus when your reality doesn’t match what you’ve been taught in church? And is it possible that God’s presence in our pain matters more than the outcome we’re praying for?

This episode isn’t about easy answers. It’s about honest faith, wrestling with God, and learning how to invite Him into the places we’d rather hide.

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https://www.thomasnelson.com/p/can-i-say-that/

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What do you do when you're finally ready to tell the people you love most about betrayal in your marriage? In this deeply personal episode, we invite Clinton’s parents, Greg and Cathy Muñoz, to recount the night they first learned about his sexual addiction and the devastating impact it had on our marriage.

From the shock of hearing their son confess infidelity, to the helplessness of watching their daughter-in-law sit in trauma and grief, Greg and Cathy share honestly about what that moment felt like—fear, confusion, shame, sadness, and the overwhelming question: How do we respond?

They also reflect on what helped them most: choosing silence over quick fixes, offering practical support like childcare, and educating themselves on betrayal trauma and sexual addiction recovery. For Greg, that night became a personal turning point—confronting his own hidden struggles and beginning his own journey of recovery.

This conversation isn’t just our family’s story—it’s a roadmap for parents and in-laws who feel lost in the wake of betrayal. If you’ve wondered how to support your children without causing more harm, how to walk with both the betrayed and the unfaithful spouse, or how to move from shock to compassion, this episode offers hope and tangible steps forward.

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In this episode, we share a big life update—our family just moved from Idaho back to California! From surfing with our kids to podcasting at our parent's dining room table, we're in a season of transition, and we're bringing you along for the ride!

But what we really dive into today is something we see every week in our recovery course and in our own lives: how identifying your feelings can change everything. We talk about how triggers aren't just annoying—they're clues to what’s happening inside us. We share stories of past tantrums (hello, crumpled water bottle), how we’re helping our kids name their emotions, and why saying “I’m fine” blocks the intimacy we were made for.

If you’ve ever struggled to know what you're feeling—or to communicate it in a way that creates connection—you’re not alone. And if you want our custom Feelings Words List, just shoot us a message and we’ll send it your way.

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Why do our sexual struggles create more shame than other sins we struggle with? Why do so many of us feel lost and unfixable as we strive for freedom? And what if healing doesn't begin with fixing what's broken- but surrendering to the One who can?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about her latest book, Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes Everything. In this conversation, we discuss how more rules or pressure flat out don't work and will never create the transformation we truly desire. Juli breaks down the mindset shift between purity and integrity, why sexual sin feels heavier than other sins, and how postmodern culture has deeply shaped the way we think about sex, marriage, and identity—even in the church.

We also dig into the root of why so many of us resist God and how it prevents us from healing. Juli shares how knowing Jesus personally—not just theologically—becomes the turning point for so many who feel stuck, disillusioned, or ashamed.

If you've ever wondered where God was in your pain… if you've tried to "do better" but keep falling back… if you want real intimacy with God but feel a gap—you’re not alone. This conversation is raw, honest, and full of hope. We pray it invites you to stop managing your pain and start surrendering it—to the only One who can truly heal it.

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