In this teaching, Co-Pastor Ezekiel Perez reflects on the significance of father-son relationships, the healing of emotional wounds, and the importance of vulnerability and forgiveness. He emphasizes the impact of absence and rejection on personal growth and the necessity of understanding and supporting one another in familial relationships. The discussion highlights the need for men to create safe spaces for vulnerability and the role of forgiveness in achieving emotional freedom. In this lesson, Co-Pastor Perez discusses the profound impact of father wounds on trust and relationships, emphasizing the need for healing and reconciliation. He highlights the importance of viewing God as a perfect father, separate from earthly experiences, and encourages men to take proactive steps in their relationships. The discussion covers initiating difficult conversations, overcoming vulnerability, and the responsibilities of raising children in a faith-based environment. Ultimately, the conversation stresses the significance of quality time, affirmation, and the commitment to healing in relationships.

Co-Pastor Ezekiel Perez

Saturday Morning | March 29, 2025

The Fountain Apostolic Church

Men's Camp (2025)

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Chapters:

Welcome (00:00:00)

Restoring Father-Son Relationships

• Malachi 4:6

Introduction (00:05:27)

• The foundational role of a father in a son’s life
• The reality of father-son conflict and the wounds it creates
• God’s desire for restoration and healing

1. The Pain of a Wounded Spirit (00:06:36)

• Broken Expectations – Sons look to fathers for affirmation and guidance
• Harsh Words and Actions – The deep impact of negative words (Proverbs 18:14)
• The Impact of Absence – Emotional and physical absence creates wounds
• Fear of Rejection – The fear of further rejection keeps wounds unaddressed
• The Shadow of Unhealed Wounds – How unresolved pain affects future relationships

2. The Path to Healing (00:15:35)

• Recognizing the Pain – Acknowledging wounds and seeking God’s healing
• Forgiveness as Freedom – Letting go of bitterness (Ephesians 4:31-32, Luke 23:34)
• Understanding Imperfection – Fathers, too, have their struggles
• Redeeming the Context of Memories – Healing changes how we view past pain

3. Covering Our Fathers Instead of Exploiting Them (00:24:31)

• Genesis 9:20-27 – The Story of Noah’s Sons
• Ham exposed his father’s shame and was cursed
• Shem and Japheth covered their father and were blessed

• Exploiting our fathers’ failures leads to generational curses
• Covering them in grace invites God’s blessing
• Honoring does not mean ignoring sin but responding with wisdom

4. The Father-Son Relationship Shapes Our View of God (00:33:40)

• A Reflection of Authority and Love – Our fathers influence how we see God
• Struggles with Trust and Submission – How broken relationships create spiritual barriers
• Healing the Father Wound to Restore Faith – Psalm 27:10: God steps in where earthly fathers fail
• Transforming the Relationship Through Grace – Rebuilding our faith through healing

5. Steps Toward Reconciliation (00:38:57)

• Pray for Healing and Guidance – Seeking God’s wisdom
• Initiate Conversations with Humility – Proverbs 15:1: A soft answer turns away wrath
• Seek Wise Counsel – Pastoral or mentorship support
• Overcoming Fear of Rejection – Taking the first step in faith
• Commit to Change – Small actions rebuild trust

6. God as the Ultimate Father (00:49:35)

• Psalm 68:5 – God is the perfect Father to the fatherless
• Finding identity and healing in Him
• Allowing our earthly healing to deepen our relationship with God

Conclusion

• Healing is a process, but it is possible through God’s grace
• Forgiveness, understanding, and reconciliation break cycles of pain
• Choosing honor and grace invites generational blessings
• Malachi 4:6 – God desires to restore father-son relationships