Ever feel like the rules in your relationship don’t actually apply to both of you? In this episode, Tara Schifsky dives headfirst into the uncomfortable, but all-too-common, world of double standards and privilege in relationships. From parenting to day-to-day dynamics, she shares brutally honest personal stories and insights from friends, exposing how these imbalances can quietly (or not so quietly) chip away at your energy, patience, and sanity.

With a little humor and zero sugarcoating, Tara challenges listeners to ask themselves: Are you playing by the same rules as your partner?

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Double Standards in Relationships

05:08 Personal Experiences with Double Standards

11:01 The Impact of Privilege in Parenting

15:09 Communication Gaps and Their Consequences

20:01 Navigating Imbalances in Work and Home Life

25:12 Overcoming People-Pleasing Tendencies

25:39 Navigating Conflict Avoidance

27:23 The Struggle for Personal Time

30:00 Double Standards in Emotional Expression

33:00 The Burden of Parenting Expectations

37:09 Family Dynamics and Planning Responsibilities

41:08 Hobbies and Personal Freedom

44:14 Societal Double Standards in Parenting

47:19 Reflections on Privilege and Relationships

52:22 Personal Reflections and Closing Thoughts

In this raw and unfiltered episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky opens up about the brutal reality of postpartum depression and anxiety—the messy, isolating, and often shame-filled side of motherhood that no one warns you about. Tara doesn’t sugarcoat it. She takes you through the darkest corners of her experience, the breaking points that forced her to ask for help, and the hard-won lessons that cracked her open in ways she never saw coming. This is more than a story about surviving postpartum—it’s about reclaiming yourself, finding strength in vulnerability, and smashing the unrealistic expectations placed on moms. If you’ve ever felt lost in the chaos of motherhood, this one’s for you.

CONTACT

Instagram: ⁠@revelinthechaos_official⁠

Facebook: ⁠Revel in the Chaos⁠

Email: [email protected]

RESOURCES

PostpartumDepression.org

Postpartum Support International

National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI)

Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call or Text 988

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Previous Episode

05:57 The Struggles of Postpartum Depression

11:51 Seeking Help and Finding Relief

18:10 The Transformation of Self-Identity

23:59 Navigating Motherhood and Mental Health

30:01 Grief and Acceptance in Motherhood

35:54 Support and Connection with Other Moms

41:52 Empathy and Reaching Out to Others

KEYWORDS

postpartum depression, mental health, motherhood, self-identity, support, anxiety, healing, intrusive thoughts, emotional well-being, parenting

In this deeply personal episode of Revel in the Chaos, host Tara Schifsky shares her firsthand experience with postpartum depression and anxiety — a topic that is still widely misunderstood and too often left unspoken. Tara opens up about the emotional and psychological toll that followed the birth of her child, describing the overwhelming darkness, disconnection and shame that crept in when she expected joy. This isn’t just a story about the “baby blues”—it’s a raw look at a serious mental health condition that affects 1 in 7 women, yet remains heavily stigmatized. With unflinching honesty, Tara recounts the moments that broke her, the silence that isolated her, and the strength it took to start speaking the truth out loud. This is part one of her journey—a conversation that sheds light on the very real struggle so many mothers face but rarely feel safe enough to admit. Whether you've lived through it, love someone who has, or want to understand what postpartum depression and anxiety really looks like, this episode will open your heart and your eyes.

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• Email: [email protected]
• Instagram: revelinthechaos_official
• Facebook: Revel in the Chaos

In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky takes a hard look at the burnout culture plaguing millennial moms. With humor and vulnerability, she shares her experiences navigating the relentless overstimulation that often leads to feelings of rage and dissociation. Tara delves into the unrealistic expectations that come with motherhood and how they contribute to a cycle of exhaustion and overwhelm. She emphasizes the crucial role of communication and support systems in combating burnout, reminding us that we can’t do it all. With a focus on setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care, Tara encourages listeners to reclaim their sanity in the chaos. So join her as she addresses the trials of millennial motherhood, all while sipping on a cup of lukewarm coffee and trying to find balance in a world that constantly demands more.

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Email: [email protected]

Insta: @revelinthechaos_official

FB: Revel in the Chaos

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction and Life Updates

05:28 The Pressure of Societal Expectations

06:27 Navigating Overstimulation and Burnout

09:45 Understanding Overstimulation

12:06 Mom Rage and Emotional Overload

24:35 Coping Mechanisms and Mental Health

28:50 Embracing the Chaos of Motherhood

35:37 Navigating Overstimulation and Overwhelm

39:28 Communication as a Key to Connection

48:38 Self-Care and Setting Boundaries

55:25 Finding Balance in a Noisy World

KEYWORDS

motherhood, overstimulation, parenting, mental health, self-care, societal expectations, communication, burnout, coping strategies, family dynamics

Being the default parent isn’t just a title—it’s a full-time, unpaid, and often unappreciated gig. In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky rips the curtain off the invisible workload that keeps households running while leaving parents (mostly moms) running on fumes. From the guilt trips to the double standards, she gets real about the emotional toll, the unspoken expectations, and the constant mental juggling act. But it’s not all school drop-offs and snack wars —Tara also dives into reclaiming balance, setting boundaries, and finding the power in owning the role (without letting it own you). Tune in for a brutally honest, slightly cathartic, and refreshingly unapologetic take on the reality of being the “default” parent.

TAKEAWAYS

• The podcast addresses the often unspoken challenges of parenting.
• Tara shares humorous anecdotes about her children's funny remarks.
• Being the default parent comes with an invisible workload that is exhausting.
• The pressure to perform and maintain a perfect household can lead to guilt.
• Tara discusses the double standards in parenting roles between partners.
• Open communication within the family is essential for addressing imbalances.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for managing the overwhelming responsibilities of parenting.
• It's important to recognize and appreciate the role of the default parent.
• Tara emphasizes that it's okay to feel overwhelmed and seek help.
• Finding joy in parenting amidst the chaos is possible.

CONTACT

Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official

Facebook: Revel in the Chaos

Email: [email protected]

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to the Chaos

02:11 The Default Parent Dilemma

09:29 The Invisible Workload

14:49 Navigating Guilt and Expectations

17:43 Understanding the Default Parent Role

21:57 Planning and Preparation for Trips

24:25 Navigating Travel and Freedom in Relationships

27:30 The Double Standards of Parenting

31:50 The Invisible Workload of the Default Parent

39:32 Creating Balance and Equity in Family Responsibilities

43:49 Embracing the Role of the Default Parent

KEYWORDS

parenting, motherhood, default parent, mental health, family dynamics, parenting struggles, work-life balance, guilt, parenting humor, family responsibilities

In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky opens up about the hidden struggles of being the default parent—the constant mental load, the overwhelming responsibilities, and the emotional toll that often goes unnoticed. From self-doubt and anxiety to the relentless juggling of family life, Tara shares her personal journey of navigating the invisible workload that shapes motherhood. She delves into the importance of carving out time for gratitude, self-care, and better communication within family dynamics. With a powerful call to action, Tara encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and start a conversation about how we can better support the unsung heroes in our homes.

Contact:

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction and Gratitude

01:08 Navigating Self-Doubt and Anxiety

04:00 The Importance of Downtime

08:42 Understanding the Invisible Workload

12:56 Defining the Default Parent

19:39 The Burden of the Invisible Workload

25:26 Communication and Partnership Dynamics

28:50 Balancing Personal Needs and Parenting Responsibilities

32:13 Conclusion and Call to Action

In this episode, Tara delves deeper into the topic of people pleasing, exploring its roots in trauma, grief, and narcissism. She shares her personal experiences and the impact these factors have had on her identity. Tara emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, learning to say no, and expressing one's needs as essential steps in the recovery process. She encourages listeners to prioritize self-discovery and self-worth, ultimately aiming to empower themselves and break the cycle of people pleasing for future generations.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Podcast Journey

05:04 Exploring People Pleasing: Part Two

07:26 The Impact of Trauma and Grief

15:25 Narcissism and People Pleasing

17:40 Recovering from People Pleasing

24:21 Setting Boundaries and Saying No

31:10 Expressing Needs and Feelings

33:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Keywords

people pleasing, trauma, grief, narcissism, boundaries, self-discovery, mental health, personal growth, self-worth, empowerment

In this episode of Revel in the Chaos, Tara Schifsky delves into the complexities of the 'good girl complex' and the pervasive issue of people-pleasing. She reflects on her personal journey, the impact of generational influences, and the struggle to set boundaries while navigating relationships. Tara emphasizes the importance of self-worth and the challenges of unlearning ingrained behaviors, all while sharing relatable anecdotes and insights into mental health.

A Note From Tara:

Let's connect! Please reach out via email or Instagram and keep the conversation going. I would love to know your thoughts on this episode. Also, let me know what other topics you think we should dive into.

Again, thank you for your continued support. I can't wait to hear from you.

xoxo,

Tara

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Reflection on Previous Episode

02:47 Exploring the Good Girl Complex

12:05 The Impact of People Pleasing on Life Decisions

24:51 The Struggle of Unlearning People Pleasing

30:07 Looking Ahead: Healing and Future Conversations

**Disclaimer: This episode contains explicit language, and mentions difficult topics such as suicidal ideation. Please listen with care, and see the resources listed below if you or someone you know needs support.

Summary

In this episode, Tara Schifsky and her husband Joe delve into the complexities of navigating a midlife crisis, exploring themes of vulnerability, masculinity, and personal growth. They share their personal experiences, the impact of therapy, and the importance of being present in family life. Joe discusses his journey of self-discovery, the decision to quit his job, and the challenges of embracing change. The conversation emphasizes the significance of emotional expression and supporting one another through life's transitions.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Midlife Crisis: An Introduction

03:03 The Impact of Personal Stories

06:00 Understanding Masculinity and Vulnerability

08:57 Catalysts for Change: Joe's Journey

12:14 Therapy and Self-Discovery

15:11 Work-Life Balance and Identity

18:07 The Decision to Quit: A New Beginning

21:00 Embracing Change and Presence

23:47 Challenges and Future Aspirations

27:13 Navigating Mental Health Challenges

30:06 The Importance of Hard Work and Self-Care

32:31 Embracing Uncertainty and Growth

35:22 Support and Teamwork in Relationships

38:05 Parenting Through Vulnerability

40:55 Courage to Change and Self-Reflection

43:52 Finding Success in Small Victories

46:16 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Pride

Contact Info

I would love to hear from you! Please send me your stories that you would like me to share on air.

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official

Resources

Crisis Helplines:

1. ​National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (USA):

◦Phone: 988 (24/7 confidential support)

◦Text: 988

◦Website: 988lifeline.org

1. ​Crisis Text Line (USA):

◦Text HOME to 741741

◦Website: crisistextline.org

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Education & Awareness:

• ​National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI):

◦Website: nami.org

◦Offers resources for both individuals and families affected by mental health challenges.

• ​Mental Health America (MHA):

◦Website: mhanational.org

◦Provides educational resources and toolkits for dealing with mental health issues.

Summary

In the inaugural episode of 'Revel in the Chaos', host Tara Schifsky shares her journey of vulnerability and self-discovery, discussing the challenges of perfectionism and the concept of midlife crisis. She reflects on her personal transformation from a dedicated teacher to a freelance writer, spurred by her own midlife crisis and that of her husband, Joe. The episode emphasizes the importance of embracing change, redefining midlife crisis as a transformative experience, and encourages listeners to pursue their happiness amidst life's chaos.

Instagram: @revelinthechaos_official

Keywords

midlife crisis, personal transformation, mental health, motherhood, self-discovery, vulnerability, career change, perfectionism, relationships, chaos

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Revel in the Chaos

03:32 Redefining Midlife Crisis

12:09 The Power of Support While Going Off the Deep End

22:25 Taking Risks and Doing What Scares the Hell Out of You

24:44 Embracing the Chaos of Transformation

Content Warning: This episode includes explicit language and may not be suitable for all audiences. Listener discretion is advised.