Brian talks about the power of reversing victimhood.

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Reversing victimhood.

Hi I'm Brian Pombo, welcome back to Brian J. Pombo Live.

I'm a Business Investor, and we have a lot of talks here about business. Both the idea of being a business owner, and also being executives, just the kind of the people who are in charge and how you get there, how do you how do you?

How do you stay happy there and how do you have a more fulfilling life?

I talk about the principles, and the strategies and the tactics necessary to be able to grow and go the next step. And I want to talk about reversing that victim mentality, reversing that victimhood concept, because it's everywhere right now.

It seems to be I have not seen a person who who claims victim mentality who claims victimhood, who sits in that space, who isn't troubled, and going the wrong direction.

I don't think there's any other way around it see, being a victim, the way I see it, in the most real sense. If you're a it's more of an event, it's the circumstances surrounding an event.

So if I get my car stolen, I'm the victim of car theft. It's the reference of me having something being done to me, in a specific event, I'm a victim of a hurricane, if a hurricane comes and knocks through my house, there's nothing that can be done about it.

There's not a whole lot that can be said about it. I mean, obviously, if someone steals your car, there's legal issues and everything else, but it doesn't change who I am, until I adopt victim as part of my personality, part of my characteristic, part of the way that I how I refer to myself, in a sense.

If you see yourself as a victim constantly, it will do no good for you ever. There's no way to claim being a victim and to come out a winner anywhere in life.

You can't.

It's the opposite. It's a part of the human condition but when you find yourself in that space, of being a feeling like a victim.

That's really what it comes down to, feeling like a victim when you feel that somebody has done you wrong, it doesn't matter whether they did you wrong or not.

The feeling is what destroys you, and takes all your power away.

I'll tell you what, why this got brought up, I had mentioned that I'm part of a book club. We are currently it's a deep dive book club. It's very interesting, where we literally will read one chapter for two weeks at a time, and then discuss it both in a Facebook group and a live Zoom meeting that we have.

Right now we're reading, thinking grow rich, and we are on chapter two. If you've never read this book, there's that very interesting story, where the author Napoleon Hill, his son, Blair was born.

He has no years, he came out he had no ears at all. There is no mechanism for hearing inside his head and something inside Napoleon told him that doesn't mean he needs to not be able to hear.

That something told him that he should be able to raise his son relatively excuse the term normal. He could raise him as if he could hear. He shouldn't have to have if anything, he challenged himself to believe that this might be an advantage.

That something that most people would see as a disadvantage could actually be an advantage.

And he believed it so much. He didn't come right out and say it but then he started helping to raise his son with that point of view that this is actually an adva...