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When we are in a bad mood, our brains will distort our stories to match. This can create an unrealistic view of our situation, our families and spouses, and our whole lives. How can we keep a positive balance? RewriteYourMarriage.com

Last episode, Loralee described her life and contemplated whether she would leave her marriage. This time she talks with Bruce about the changes they each made to repair their relationship. Why did she choose the hard work of repair over the hard work of divorce? Loralee explains how: She would love to have a "sex fast" She learns to trust Bruce Her trials opened her heart to change Here is the Sex for Saints podcast Bruce and Loralee mentioned (Amanda Louder interviews Mike Peterson) https://amandalouder.com/podcast/174/ RewriteYourMarriage.com

To understand great connection and profound love in marriage, we have to get through the rough, lonely patches.

Loralee recounts some difficult times of her marriage: moving, job loss, parenting, disappointment, and the death of her mother. There were many times when she tried to get Bruce to understand her and see her. She explains that even though she experienced great trials in her marriage, she held on to the hope that things could get better.

Next time, Bruce and Loralee talk about apologies, change, growth, healing, and joy—even when challenges continue.

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Loralee and Bruce North interview Danicia Christensen, founder of DANSA

Accepting our bodies—even listening to our bodies—is crucial to a happy, healthy life. In this part of our interview, Danicia reflects on her own journey.

Her advice:
Women: heal; listen to your body; let pleasure be a part of your life. Let your husband help.
Men: Your greatest happiness comes from helping your wife feel good.

Plus, Danicia tells us about the impact Rewrite Your Marriage has had on her!

Learn more about Danicia: 
https://www.facebook.com/danicia.christensen
https://www.instagram.com/songs_and_souls_danicia/
https://songsandsouls.net/dansa-class-registration

Rewrite Your Marriage online class:
https://rewriteyourmarriage.com/

Loralee and Bruce North interview Danicia Christensen, founder of DANSA

Accepting our bodies—even listening to our bodies—is crucial to a happy, healthy life. Danicia tells Bruce and Loralee her story of meeting her husband David, how they have learned to support each other, and even finding peace in their physical differences. Also, Danicia explains how learning to connect with our bodies through music and movement can better connect us to the Spirit of God.

Learn more about Danicia: 
https://www.facebook.com/danicia.christensen
https://www.instagram.com/songs_and_souls_danicia/
https://songsandsouls.net/dansa-class-registration

Rewrite Your Marriage online class:
https://rewriteyourmarriage.com/

Have you ever looked at your spouse and wondered what they were thinking to do something you just couldn't figure out? Was your spouse acting either rude or just plain crazy? Bruce and Loralee use the mundane task of loading the dishwasher to illustrate the stories we create to fill in the gaps in our understanding of each other, and how we can come closer together.
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Do you ever feel like your spouse pulled a Bait & Switch?

We define Bait & Switch and describe how we generate stories to explain behavior.  Rewriting the stories (reframing) helps us to see the distortion we sometimes create ourselves. 

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Easy marriage hack = DATING!
Bruce  & Loralee discuss a February 2023 report from the Wheatley Institute and the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia. 
The numbers are even better than the report they read on PR News for the podcast! Here are the benefits of a twice-monthly date night:

Happier marital relationship

• 83% of wives and 84% of husbands who had regular date nights were very happy in their marriages, compared to 68% of wives and 70% of husbands who did not have regular date nights.

More stable marriage

• Wives and husbands in the frequent date nights group were about 14% more likely to report that divorce “was not at all likely” in the future.

Better communication

• 71% of wives and 77% of husbands who had regular date nights were very happy with their communication, compared to 51% of wives and 59% of husbands who did not have regular date nights.

More sexual satisfaction

• 68% of wives and 67% of husbands who had regular date nights were very happy with their sexual relationship, compared to 47% of wives and 47% of husbands who did not have regular date nights.

More commitment to marriage

• 75% of wives and 73% of husbands who had regular date nights reported being very committed to their marriage, compared to 53% of wives and 57% of husbands who did not have regular date nights.

https://heatley.byu.edu/date-night-report

Interested in learning more about improving your relationship? We have an online course!

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Some new listeners asked for us to give a little more background! Get to know Bruce and Loralee a little better.

You can learn more about us and our online course at RewriteYourMarriage.com

"We need to change for the better every day. We also need to forgive each other every day, because you're going to do things that annoy me." —Loralee
We hear about this one a lot, don't we? "Forgiveness?" What does that even look like in a real marriage? Bruce and Loralee discuss this important ingredient of kindness.

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