We all grow up absorbing society’s “shoulds”—what success looks like, how much we’re meant to achieve, and even how our bodies should function. But what happens when life doesn’t fit those rules? For many people living with chronic illness, these expectations become not only unrealistic, but harmful.

In this episode, we explore the hidden weight of societal expectations and why unlearning them is essential—not just for those managing health conditions, but for anyone longing to live more freely. We’ll talk about how to spot the “shoulds” that keep you stuck, why they hit harder when you’re navigating illness, and what it looks like to rewrite the rules in a way that honours your health, your values, and your humanity.

Practical strategies, reflective prompts, and a big dose of compassion will help you step into a life defined not by external pressure, but by authenticity and freedom.

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