S2E9: Richard Phu - 'Am I in the Movie 'Hostel'?'

What is the secret to becoming your own Ultimate Man? What is the key to living a life with no regrets? How do you learn to follow your heart over your head? Richard Phu, of The Ultimate Man and the Forge Your Life podcast, comes with answers to these questions, along with questions of his own. How would you describe an ultimate man, and what is your purpose in life? These two are more tangled up than you might think. Richard leads us forth. Richard Phu visits Hayden from Australia, where he is currently working on his online coaching business. 

The founder of The Ultimate Man and the Forge Your Life podcast, Richard discusses what the Ultimate Man really is; the true ultimate man is not any one set person, he tells us. Instead, this man is exactly what you want it to be. As long as you follow Richard’s five pillars - purpose, wealth, health, mindset, and love - you can achieve your own ultimate man. Richard discusses with Hayden how his realization that he had to commit himself to living the most fulfilling life possible was connected to travel and freedom, and vice versa. He also brings forward a discussion featuring charity: water, a charity that works to bring sustainable, community-owned clean water projects around the world. Hayden and Richard go on to talk about how important it is to relinquish control and put trust and faith into the situation. Along with feelings of regret and disappointment regarding an experience you feel you missed while traveling, they talk about learning to listen to your heart and follow what it tells you. The star of this episode, however, is Richard’s travel story, aptly named “Am I in the Movie ‘Hostel’?”, recounting a time when Richard visited Vienna, Austria by himself and got hopelessly and terrifyingly turned around in a hostel. It does not help that he keeps seeing men turn corners right ahead of him. The moral of Richard’s story? Sometimes, you get pushed into really scary situations, but it’s how you deal with it, how you fight through it, and how you deal with it that truly matters. 

4:48 - Richard asks Hayden, how would he describe the ultimate man? As it turns out, the ultimate man is what you want it to be, and not anything specific. 

6:10 - Hayden and Richard discuss the five pillars of the Ultimate Man, how to achieve each, and why each is so important to becoming your own ultimate man. 

10:24 - Richard answers the question, how is the commitment to living the most fulfilling life possible connected to travel and freedom? He discusses whether his realization of living a fulfilling life came from travel, or vice versa - did travel come from his realization? 

16:08 - Richard talks about coming home from traveling and feeling like you can no longer relate to the people you left back home. 

19:20 - Richard starts telling his scary story from the time he went to Austria by himself, aptly named: “Am I in the Movie ‘Hostel?” Richard details his real-life horror story in Vienna, where he got lost in a hostel and could only just keep catching a guy turning the corner - or did he?

Get in Touch with Hayden on Instagram: @backpackdigital