When you've really gone and messed it up and have taken a wrecking ball to your life, it can be easier to ask others for forgiveness before you consider asking yourself. Shame festers. An inability to have self-compassion numbs you, affects your mental health, and limits the positive impact you can have in your own life and in the lives of others. Talking about shame isn't easy. Listening to advice about managing shame isn't on the top of most people's lists but self-compassion and self acceptance are crucial for healing, recovery, and fresh starts.