Ride or Lie

Is social media helping us date better... or making it harder to trust ourselves?

In this honest conversation, Shan and CoCo explore how today's relationship advice culture, "car therapists," and endless online opinions are shaping the way we think about love, dating, and ourselves. While CoCo has intentionally stepped away from dating to focus on healing, regulating her nervous system, and finding balance, Shan has embraced dating as a season of growth, curiosity, and rediscovering herself after divorce.

The two compare their very different approaches to the same stage of life, proving there's no single "right" way to navigate relationships. They also dive into how childhood experiences, father wounds, vulnerability, and personal transformation influence the way we love today.

Whether you're actively dating, taking a break, or somewhere in between, this episode is a reminder to quiet the outside noise and trust your own journey.

In this episode, we discuss:

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Can AI replace human connection, or is it simply changing the way we seek it?

In this episode, Shan and Coco explore the growing influence of AI on modern relationships and ask a question that feels more relevant every day: Can technology enhance human connection, or are we slowly replacing it?

From AI-generated dating profiles and relationship advice to virtual companions and emotionally intelligent chatbots, the conversation dives into how people are using artificial intelligence to navigate love, communication, loneliness, and self-discovery. The ladies share their own experiences using AI as a tool for dating, personal growth, and understanding relationship dynamics while debating where the line should be drawn.

They also tackle the rise of AI companions, robotic technology, and whether consistency, validation, and emotional support from artificial intelligence could ever compete with genuine human connection.

As AI becomes more integrated into our everyday lives, one thing remains clear: humans are still searching for connection, understanding, and love. The question is whether technology will help us find it or redefine what it looks like altogether.

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This episode dives into candid conversations about love, friendship, jealousy, self-growth, and navigating the modern dating world, which we're known for here on ROL. Featuring insightful discussions with Motion, a versatile creative, life enthusiast, and friend to the show, the episode captures raw honesty on relationships and personal development.

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“In life and love, you have two choices: Ride or Lie.”

This week, Shan and CoCo are keeping it real about dating then vs. now… and how much (or how little) has actually changed.

From joking about sugar daddies to questioning whether spinning the block is ever worth it, the conversation takes a deeper turn into how women evolve in what they want, what they tolerate, and what they’re no longer falling for.

They reflect on high school dating experiences, the types of men they used to entertain, and how maturity, self-awareness, and life responsibilities have reshaped their standards.

And then there’s “Todd.”

Inspired by their new micro-drama series Circles of the Ridge, they break down the classic “charmer” archetype… the smooth-talking, overly polished guy who knows exactly what to say and do. The question is: are women still falling for that?

Or have we finally learned to see through it?

This episode dives into:

It’s funny, honest, and a little nostalgic… but ultimately about growth.

Because at some point, it’s not about who looks good on paper… it’s about who actually adds value to your life.

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Has Shan finally found the one?

In this episode, Shan and CoCo are joined by Marlon, a close friend of the show, who challenges what we think we know about emotional maturity, intentionality, and modern relationships.

After meeting on a dating app and ultimately choosing friendship over romance, Shan found herself experiencing something unexpected with Marlon: consistency, clarity, and the rare feeling of being genuinely seen and wanted...all the things she's been looking for in a partner...so what's the issue?!

This conversation dives into:

* Why so many people feel unsatisfied in relationships

Marlon shares his perspective as a man living a poly lifestyle, breaking down the difference between satisfaction and fulfillment and what it really takes to show up for the people you care about.

If you’ve ever questioned why someone isn’t showing up for you… this episode might give you your answer.

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Were we ever actually taught how to date, or just how to avoid getting “messed up”? In this layered conversation, Shan and CoCo unpack how black family, culture, generational trauma, and “crisis prevention” shaped what many of us learned about love. Joined by licensed clinical social worker Miesha Rice and Atlanta dating host Vanessa, the group explores why courtship can feel foreign, how dating apps changed accountability, and what it takes to build healthier connections when nobody handed you the blueprint.

Why so many of us were taught what not to do (don’t get pregnant, don’t ruin your future) instead of how to build a healthy relationship

How family history, long-term stress, and generational patterns can show up in adult dating choices

The “connection vs protection” gap: what was missing from the conversations we needed

A real talk breakdown of ghosting, fading out, and the lack of accountability in modern dating

The “date them all” debate: keeping options open, communicating expectations, and avoiding rose-colored glasses

Why singles mixers and in-person events are trending again (and what they offer that apps can’t)

A powerful case for therapy early, including the idea of moderated conversations at the start of dating

Shan brings in a viral-style perspective on how Black communities are socialized differently around dating, courtship, and “pair bonding,” than their White counterparts sparked by a video that a friend shared with her from @bunmisupreme on Instagram. The conversation expands the idea by adding emotional availability, family modeling (even in two-parent homes), and the long shadow of cultural and historical trauma.

If your only relationship education was avoidance, it makes sense that adult dating can feel confusing, anxious, or high-stakes.

“Serious” isn’t assumed anymore. Clarity comes from direct conversations about what dating means to each person.

Apps can encourage low-effort behavior. In-person spaces often create more accountability and real chemistry checks.

Emotional intelligence matters early. Look for it before you’re already invested.

Healing isn’t just personal, it’s cultural. Therapy and guided conversations can help you build a new script.

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What did you learn about dating growing up: connection, protection, or nothing at all? And how is that showing up in your relationships right now?

If this episode made you think, send it to a friend who’s “tired of the apps” and trying to date with intention.

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In this episode of Ride or Lie, Coco and Shan step away from surface-level conversations and get honest about the question that shapes everything:

Why are we really doing this?

This is a reflective, vulnerable conversation about purpose, evolution, mental health, and the courage it takes to choose yourself, especially when life doesn’t look the way you imagined it would.

Shan opens up about how her “why” has shifted over time, from ambition and entrepreneurship to motherhood, healing, and stability. She shares how becoming a mother reshaped her priorities around mental health, financial security, emotional safety, and self-preservation. This season of her life is about being whole so she can show up fully, not just for her child, but for herself.

Coco shares a deeply personal reflection on her own journey, stepping back from distractions, reassessing dating, and choosing alignment over noise. Her “why” is bigger than relationships and external validation. It’s about safety, creativity, integrity, and being able to say, at the end of the day, “I’m proud of myself.”

Together, they unpack:

The conversation also touches on current events and culture, including reflections on media coverage, loss, and visibility. They reference the public attention surrounding Savannah Guthrie and how empathy, access, and attention show up differently in national news.

This episode lands during Black History Month, grounding the discussion in awareness, reflection, and community responsibility. Coco and Shan also acknowledge recent loss in the culture, including the passing of DJ Young Slade, the son of Lil Jon.

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On this episode of the Ride or Lie Podcast, we’re tackling a real struggle in today’s dating world—swipe fatigue. With endless choices, ghosting, and the never-ending cycle of matching but never meeting, or meeting and being severely disappointed,  are we all just burning out on modern dating through app overload?

Join us and our special guest co-host, Jarratt Damn, of the It’s About Damn Time podcast, bringing his unfiltered take on modern dating and why so many of us are feeling so exhausted by this app game!

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Are you over the dating apps? Have you ever taken a break from swiping? What’s your biggest struggle with online dating? Drop your thoughts in the comments or visit us on our socials @rideorliepodcast.

Let's ride!

We’re officially stepping into 2026, and we’re so glad you’re here with us. Thank you for riding alongside us through every season, shift, and surprise. This episode is our way of welcoming you back, setting the tone for the year ahead, and grounding ourselves in gratitude, honesty, and intention.

In this first episode of the new year, Shan and CoCo reflect on 2025 and the very different, but equally powerful journeys they each experienced.

For Shan, 2025 was a year of major transition, including buying a new home and navigating the loss of a job that ultimately pushed her closer to freedom, clarity, and purpose. For CoCo, it was a year rooted in growth and learning, as she leaned into personal development and creative goals that expanded her vision.

Together, the ladies talk about what it means to enter 2026 with intention, excitement, and openness. From Shan’s unexpected discovery of her femininity to CoCo celebrating Shan’s ability to soften, this conversation sets the stage for deeper dialogue, fresh perspectives, and real healing.

A new segment is also introduced, along with a preview of what’s coming next: new conversations, new guests, bold topics, and yes… more therapy as the year unfolds.

Reflecting on the lessons and losses of 2025

Shan’s year of transition, resilience, and awakening

CoCo’s season of growth, learning, and creative focus

Redefining strength & femininity

Introducing a new segment

What Riders can expect from Ride or Lie in 2026

If you’re new here, welcome. If you’ve been riding with us, thank you.

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Happy Holidays Riders!

As the year comes to a close, Shan and CoCo get real about the holidays, the pressure to feel “in the spirit,” and what it actually feels like wrapping up the year. 

What ever happened with the New Guy (NG) Shan was feeling even before she matched with Dion from our previous 3-part series? We’re giving an owed update on where things landed, what shifted, and the lessons that came with it.

Next the ladies dive into the inspiration behind this episode...a Facebook post got the ladies thinking deeply about the biological differences between men and women and how those differences show up in relationships over time.

The post raises some uncomfortable but very real questions:

Women are born with a fixed number of eggs and experience hormonal changes that often impact libido through menopause.

Men, in many cases, don’t experience the same decline in sexual desire.

So what does that mean for long-term monogamy?

Did God design men to have multiple partners?

Not as permission to cheat, but as an honest exploration of patterns we see everywhere across cultures, faiths, income levels, and age groups. When love remains but desire shifts, especially as women age and men don’t seem to slow down, who’s wrong… if anyone?

Shan and CoCo weigh in with personal insight and of course, differing perspectives.

This episode also marks the close of our launch year of the Ride or Lie Podcast, and we want to sincerely thank everyone who listened, shared, commented, and rode with us from day one. Your support made this year possible.

And trust… next year we’re coming even harder.

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